Have you ever been out with friends, laughing and enjoying yourself, then suddenly felt guilty because your husband is at home struggling?
Or felt relieved to have a peaceful evening without him there - only to feel terrible for even thinking that?
When you love someone struggling with alcohol or addiction, guilt can creep into the most unexpected moments.
In Episode 110 of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda shares her own experience of losing touch with her happiness, including the heartbreaking moment she realised how long it had been since she'd heard herself laugh.
We talk about the guilt that comes with loving someone who is struggling - and why you don't have to put your own life on hold to prove you care.
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If you're carrying guilt, worry and responsibility and you're unsure what to do next, Amanda's eight-week group programme, Recovery Reclaimed Together, offers practical support for women who love someone struggling with alcohol or addiction.
You don't need your partner to be sober, and you don't have to decide whether you're staying or leaving before getting support for yourself.
Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together
It's my eight-week guided program for people impacted by a loved one's addiction, where we work through the everyday situations that can feel so difficult to navigate.
With practical tools, group coaching and a supportive private community, you'll learn how to respond to challenging situations, understand what's yours to take responsibility for and start making changes that support your own wellbeing.
You don't have to wait for your husband to stop drinking, admit there's a problem or go to rehab before you can get support for yourself.
Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together
And if you're unsure whether it's right for you, you can email me at amanda@addictionmakesthree.com
You don't have to solve everything that's happening with your husband before you can begin looking after yourself.
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