Your husband says he hasn't been drinking. But something feels off. You ask him, he says no, and now you're questioning yourself. How do you know what to believe when trust has been broken before?
Maybe it's the way he's speaking. Maybe he's unusually chatty or quiet. Maybe his behaviour just doesn't seem quite right.
So you ask him if he's been drinking.
He looks you in the eye and says no.
And now you're left wondering whether to believe him or trust what you're noticing.
If you've been lied to about drinking before, it's understandable that you might find yourself questioning everything. You start watching his behaviour, checking for bottles, looking for clues and trying to work out what's really happening.
And before you know it, you've become the detective in your own relationship.
In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, we're talking about what happens when trust has been broken, why you might find yourself constantly checking for signs of drinking, and how to start rebuilding trust in yourself.
In this episode, we explore:
Here's something I really want you to hear:
You don't have to know for certain whether he's been drinking before you can decide what feels okay for you.
You can notice the behaviour, consider what you need and make decisions that support you, even when you don't have all the answers.
And you don't have to figure out how to do that alone.
If you're tired of checking, second-guessing yourself and feeling like your whole day revolves around whether your husband is drinking, I'd love to invite you into Recovery Reclaimed Together.
It's my eight-week program for people impacted by a loved one's addiction, where we work through the everyday situations that can feel so difficult to navigate.
With practical tools, group coaching and a supportive private community, you'll learn how to respond to challenging situations, understand what's yours to take responsibility for and start making changes that support your own wellbeing.
You don't have to wait for your husband to stop drinking, admit there's a problem or go to rehab before you can get support for yourself.
Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together
And if you're unsure whether it's right for you, you can email me at amanda@addictionmakesthree.com
You don't have to solve everything that's happening with your husband before you can begin looking after yourself.
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