{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6515527d3d898a0011b410e3/6a45fd24be51d57f763024f3?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"103 - The Things You Can (and Can't) Control","description":"<p>What if your peace didn't have to wait?</p><p><br></p><p>So many of us quietly tell ourselves:</p><p><br></p><p>💛 <em>\"I'll feel better when they stop drinking.\"</em></p><p>💛 <em>\"I'll relax when they get help.\"</em></p><p>💛 <em>\"I'll be happy when things settle down.\"</em></p><p><br></p><p>But what if peace doesn't arrive at the end of someone else's recovery journey?</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, Amanda shares two powerful voice notes from a listener whose words capture something so many families affected by addiction experience:</p><p><br></p><p>We can't make someone stop drinking.</p><p>We can't force someone into recovery.</p><p>But we can begin changing where we put our time, energy and focus, and support someone in a healthy way.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode we are talking about</p><p><br></p><ul><li>Why trying to change someone else's drinking leaves us exhausted</li><li>The difference between supporting someone and carrying them</li><li>Why your wellbeing doesn't have to depend on someone else's choices</li><li>What you can and can't control when living with a loved one's addiction</li><li>How to begin finding peace, whether your loved one is drinking, sober or somewhere in between</li></ul><p><br></p><p>If you've ever found yourself searching for:</p><p><br></p><p>• How do I stop worrying about my husband's drinking?</p><p>• How do I find peace when someone I love has an addiction?</p><p>• Why do I feel responsible for someone else's recovery?</p><p>• How do I support someone without losing myself?</p><p><br></p><p>This episode is for you.</p><p><br></p><h3>👉 READY FOR THE NEXT STEP?</h3><p><br></p><p>If today's episode resonated, I'd love to invite you to explore <a href=\"https://amanda-lockyer.mykajabi.com/discovery-to-recovery-workshop\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Discovery to Recovery</strong></a>.</p><p>Discovery to Recovery is my coaching programme for partners and family members affected by addiction. It's designed to help you stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, reconnect with yourself, and find more peace, regardless of where your loved one is on their journey.</p><p><br></p><p>You don't have to wait for someone else to change before you start changing your own experience.  <a href=\"https://amanda-lockyer.mykajabi.com/discovery-to-recovery-workshop\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Find out more here</a></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>👉 <strong>NEED MORE SUPPORT?</strong></p><p><br></p><p>If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.</p><p>It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.</p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://addictionmakesthree.as.me/friendlychat\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>book in a friendly chat</strong></a><strong> </strong>to talk it through</p><p><br></p><p>The waitlist for <strong>Pathway to Wellness</strong> is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.</p><p><br></p><p> <a href=\"https://www.addictionmakesthree.com/programwaitlist\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Join the Waitlist</strong></a> for the Pathway to Wellness Program</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support.</p><p><br></p><p>You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.</p><p>And you deserve to live your life too.</p><p><br></p><p>And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.</p><p><br></p><p>If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.</p>","author_name":"Amanda Lockyer"}