What happens when you lose the identity you’ve built your entire life around, and everything begins to fall apart?
In this episode of I Got Back Up, Ryan opens up about the devastating impact of losing his rugby career, battling depression, falling into addiction, and reaching a point where he had to confront the reality of his life. But this is more than a story about hitting rock bottom. It’s about rediscovering who you are, taking responsibility for your choices, and finding a way forward when the life you once knew no longer exists.
Ryan reflects on retiring from rugby at 30, struggling to let go of the identity of “Ryan the rugby player”, and the painkillers, destructive habits, and low self-worth that followed. He shares how prison became a turning point, giving him the space to reflect, challenge old beliefs, and begin rebuilding his life from the inside out.
Together, Ryan and Talia explore why we cling to identities that no longer serve us, how fear traps us in unhealthy patterns, and why meaningful change often starts with small, everyday decisions.
From meditation and movement to spending time in nature and learning to keep promises to yourself, Ryan explains how simple daily habits can rebuild self-trust, strengthen self-worth, and help you take control of your future.
Because sometimes, you don't need to have your whole life figured out. You just need to do the next right thing.
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