{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/63deb3834261050011c52477/6a8ce14cf97516394c300392?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Rewriting the Rules: Sobriety, Shame, Sacred Intimacy, and Self Trust with Paige Calentino","description":"<p>087: Paige Calentino started drinking at 14 and spent her 20s in a cycle of blackout weekends, a toxic long-term relationship, and a corporate culture built around happy hour — until a 75HARD challenge cracked something open. In this candid conversation, Paige shares the spring break night that nearly killed her, how she rebuilt her identity from the ground up, and why she believes you don't need a rock bottom to want something better. This is a conversation about self-trust, sober sex, and designing a life — and a wedding — that actually reflects who you've become.</p><h2><br></h2><p>Feeling the Pulse on</p><ul><li>Paige's early relationship with alcohol and how it escalated through a party-heavy sorority and college culture</li><li>The harrowing spring break night in the Bahamas — being roofied, a fall from a hotel balcony, and the aftermath she carried herself</li><li>How corporate \"happy hour culture\" reinforced her drinking and how leadership sets the tone for a company's relationship with alcohol</li><li>The toxic, codependent five-year relationship that finally ended — and became the start of her Saturn Return</li><li>Moving to San Diego, the COVID lockdown, and the slow pull toward meditation, astrology, and spirituality</li><li>Trying 75HARD — and the moment, 40 days in, she realized she didn't want to drink again</li><li>Why 75HER is a more cycle-informed, inclusive alternative to 75HARD, and what Paige learned about her own body and phases</li><li>How self-trust built through consistency became the throughline connecting her sobriety, her relationships, and her business</li><li>Alcohol, numbing, and sexual intimacy — why sober sex requires more vulnerability and can access deeper pleasure</li><li>Meeting her fiancé — both newly sober</li><li>Designing a wellness-focused, alcohol-free wedding after being a bridesmaid 11 times in the traditional, drink-heavy wedding culture</li><li>How her family and friends have responded to her transformation, including her dad's own shift away from drinking</li><li>Her advice for anyone sober-curious</li><li>Her harm-reduction approach to coaching — helping women either cut back or quit entirely, on their own timeline</li><li>Why you don't need to hit rock bottom, or take on a label like \"alcoholic,\" to decide you want a different relationship with drinking</li></ul><p><br></p><p>For women who desire to feel even more deeply connected to their bodies, pelvic space, their pleasure, and their power - Vaginal Alchemy&nbsp;is the place to begin.</p><p><a href=\"https://www.brittneyellers.com/valchemy-reloaded\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">You can get started here</a>&nbsp;during Alchemy August (first 10 women get personalized roadmap from Dr. Brittney) or join the waitlist for the next live cohort experience (2027),&nbsp;<a href=\"https://www.brittneyellers.com/vaginal-alchemy-live\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">learn more and sign up here</a>.</p><p><br></p><p>Connect with our guest, Paige</p><ul><li>Instagram &amp; TikTok:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/sober_caliente\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@sober_caliente</a></li><li>Newsletter: <a href=\"https://substack.com/@sobercaliente\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Substack</a> (weekly, Friday mornings)</li><li>Website:&nbsp;<a href=\"http://paigecalentino.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">paigecalentino.com</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Connect with Dr. Brittney</p><ul><li><a href=\"https://www.brittneyellers.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Website</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Support the show</p><ul><li><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/pelvicpulsepodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Follow&nbsp;@‌pelvicpulsepodcast</a>, subscribe, rate, review, or leave a comment</li><li><a href=\"https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=ASPEXJFATX8PJ\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Donate for more embodied wisdom and empowering stories for pelvic healing and vitality</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>For our listeners only</p><ul><li><a href=\"https://www.brittneyellers.com/freebies\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Freebies for pelvic health</a>, including Arousal Anatomy Adventure and the Pool of Presence</li><li><a href=\"https://www.brittneyellers.com/recommendations\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Recommended products</a></li></ul><p><br></p>","author_name":"Brittney Ellers"}