{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6343f6ca42bc9d0012fcc894/65d95ef42e226d0017c8ec62?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"59. Dating People for Their Potential","description":"<p>Today I discuss the complex issue of dating people for their potential rather than who they currently are. I talk about the importance of self-awareness, and acceptance and how projecting our own goals, fears, and trauma onto our partners can create unhealthy dynamics within the relationship. There's a critical difference between being supportive of a partner's growth and trying to mould them into an ideal vision.</p><p><br></p><p>(00:00)&nbsp;Introduction and Welcome</p><p>(00:55)&nbsp;Optimism and Hope</p><p>(03:12)&nbsp;Projecting Our Desires and Potential onto Others</p><p>(06:23)&nbsp;The Role of Trauma</p><p>(10:16)&nbsp;The Hero Complex and Distraction from Self-Work</p><p>(13:42)&nbsp;Potential as a Source of Inspiration and Growth</p><p>(16:36)&nbsp;The Balance of Acceptance and Aspiration</p><p><br></p><p>---</p><p>Thanks for tuning in. You can listen to the show anywhere you get your podcasts. Please rate and review the show if you enjoy it.</p><p><br></p><p>Say hello or support SELF With Amanda:</p><p><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/selfwithamanda/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">SELF With Amanda Instagram</a></p><p><a href=\"https://open.acast.com/shows/6343f6ca42bc9d0012fcc894/episodes/hello@self-podcast.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Email</a></p><p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/selfpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Patreon</a></p><p><a href=\"https://www.self-podcast.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Website</a></p>","author_name":"Amanda Tran"}