{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/62f3a2604c87a60012c0dcc6/699d55a4483a121592ed33f1?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"71. Understanding the stories we tell ourselves about our relationships with Dr Di Harner","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/62f3a2604c87a60012c0dcc6/1772758828752-f01e9c7c-a02f-40e9-9ea6-f0d05dbe4dcf.jpeg?height=200","description":"<h2>In this episode I speak to my colleague Dr Diane Harner, neuroscientist, counsellor and business coach. </h2><p><br></p><p>Together we explore how an understanding of neuroscience can inform us to get smarter in relationships particularly in terms of the <strong>stories we tell ourselves.</strong></p><p><br></p><p>We explore:</p><p>-how attachment experiences in childhood shape adult relationships</p><p>-how attunement and reciprocity as key factors in attachment</p><p>-the characteristics of anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles, highlighting how early experiences shape these patterns</p><p>-how maintaining curiosity has a real benefit especially in relationships</p><p>-the potential dangers of overconfidence in one's thinking.</p><p>-the importance of self-awareness and metacognition in understanding and improving self-esteem</p><p>-the functions of three brain networks: the Executive Network, the Default Mode Network and Salience Network</p><p>-and finally Diane gives us tips on how to manage negative thought patterns</p><p><br></p><h2>To connect with Diane check out her websites</h2><p><br></p><p>For Public speaking and coaching - https://www.clevermindsconsulting.com.au/</p><p>For counselling - https://www.drdianeharner.com.au/</p><h2><br></h2><h2>Nicole Mathieson</h2><p><br></p><p>This podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a <a href=\"https://nicolemathieson.com/podcasts-about-relationships/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">couple of podcasts</a> and is the author of&nbsp;<a href=\"https://nicolemathieson.com/the-beauty-load-book/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em>The Beauty Load, </em></a><em>How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.</em></p><p>Nicole helps men, women and couples get&nbsp;<a href=\"https://nicolemathieson.com/couple-counselling-brisbane/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>smarter, happier and more connected</strong>&nbsp;in their intimate relationships</a> and has various <a href=\"https://nicolemathieson.com/courses/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">online courses </a>and resources to support people navigating the tricky realm of relationships.</p>","author_name":"Nicole Mathieson | Couple therapist and Relationship counsellor "}