Hello, hello, and welcome to F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. This is the podcast where we talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, overwhelm, identity, and all the weird little things that make you think, ‘surely it’s not just me.’ We’re honest, occasionally sweary, and very much not interested in pretending to be polished.
Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears and let’s get started!
It’s Jayne’s birthday, which means tiaras, deli-meat picnics, crystals, birthday queen energy… and an honest chat about why birthdays can feel so complicated when you’re neurodivergent.
In this episode, Callie and Jayne talk about the weird pressure of being celebrated, the discomfort of being perceived, and the difference between loving other people’s birthdays and wanting to crawl into a hole on your own. They unpack the emotional load of responding 'properly', performing the right level of joy, and feeling exposed.
The conversation takes a very F Them Fish sidequest into sleep deprivation, business overload, rage buying, and whether a digital notebook can, in fact, save your life. Spoiler: possibly not, but we remain emotionally attached to the dream. You should definitely send this to whoever makes the Remarkable notepad though because Callie spent way too much money and would love some retrospective sponsorship if you please!
01:00 — Welcome to Jayne’s birthday episode!
04:44 — Being Perceived when you're neurodivergent
13:06 — Sleep deprivation, work overload and shame
14:41 — Rage buying YOU'RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME!
31:12 — Interoception and body signals
32:03 — Neurodivergent kids and toilet training - it's hard and there is support
33:58 — Sensory regulation, music and respecting other people’s joy
36:03 — Late diagnosis - unlearning alll that stuff
37:00 — Listener question: office gossip
40:00 — Listener question: no-one takes me seriously
47:00 — Wrap-up, listener love and birthday dinner
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AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.
This podcast was created on the lands of the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung and Dja Dja Wurrung Peoples.
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