In this episode of F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups, Callie and Jayne talk about the strange joy of organising when your brain is finally in the mood for it, and why 'out of sight, out of mind' is not always an ADHD tax. Sometimes it is an ADHD bonus.
They unpack the emotional lift that comes from sorting cupboards, rediscovering forgotten treasures, and building systems that actually work for the way neurodivergent people live. From colour-coded towels and linen hacks to craft supplies, fabric finds, and childhood memories, this episode is equal parts practical, funny, and deeply familiar.
They also respond to a listener question about rejection sensitivity and bosses, exploring how much of workplace discomfort is about perception, how much might be a real shift, and why the relationship with your immediate manager can shape your whole experience at work. That conversation opens into a bigger reflection on leadership, vulnerability, responsibility, and the loneliness that can come with being the person expected to hold it all together.
To close, Callie shares a brand-new poem inspired by spoon theory, written in a hyperfocus burst and read aloud for the first time on the podcast. It is tender, sharp, funny, and likely to hit home for anyone who has ever been told they were inconsistent when really they were just running low on spoons.
00:11 Welcome back and chaotic bestie energy
01:49 Post-Sydney crash and the need to recover
02:38 ADHD bonus: organising the linen cupboard
04:46 Linen and quilt set hack: store sets inside a pillowcase
05:27 Why organisation brings joy when the timing is right
06:10 Designing homes and systems around how people actually live
07:17 Guest linen standards, stained sheets, and household rules
09:18 Offering tea, sandwiches, and emotional support to everyone
10:21 Cleaners as support, not luxury
11:24 Back to the cupboard: forgotten fabric and the ADHD memory bonus
14:11 Jayne’s craft reorganisation and rediscovering treasured fabrics
15:57 Buttons, pendants, sewing memories, and childhood signs no one spotted
18:50 Surprise podcast stickers and octopus merch joy
19:50 Love Hearts, nostalgia, and disappointing lolly messages
21:46 Listener question: how do I handle RSD with my boss?
23:42 Why your relationship with your manager matters so much
24:53 Perception, assigning intention, and scripting hard conversations
26:27 Looking at your boss with empathy without losing yourself
29:35 Leadership can be lonely
31:13 Boundaries, vulnerability, and leading as a human
33:10 What leaders owe people in moments of uncertainty
35:41 Why people look for someone who can hold the line
38:57 Creating the authorising environment for others to thrive
39:28 The emotional weight leaders carry behind the scenes
40:12 Hyperfocus, songwriting, and the origin of the spoon poem
42:05 Callie reads I’m Out of Spoons
45:47 Jayne responds: “I feel seen”
47:08 Where the poem might live next on socials
47:41 Wrap-up and goodbye
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