{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/62a7849004bdd200117465f3/67d1d900ba1ef91ed06a9f24?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"658. Romance and Penetrative Sex: A Conversation With Jane Buehler","description":"<p>Today brings a vulnerable and honest conversation about the prevalence of penetrative sex in romance, and what happens if a writer decides to create a character with pelvic floor pain, for whom that kind of sex isn’t possible? Let’s find out!</p><p><br></p><p>Jane Buehler’s new book, <em>The Fire Apprentice</em>, is out this week, and we’re going to talk about the book, and the series. But we’re also talking about the asexual spectrum, body changes from menopause, reactive desire, and kegels!</p><p><br></p><p>Content Advisory: We are talking about pelvic floor, vaginismus, vulvodynia, asexuality and demisexuality, effective performance of kegels, sexual trauma, traumatic effects of bullying, and the paltry state of scientific research into conditions that affect people with vulvas and vaginas.</p><p><br></p><p>You can find&nbsp;<a href=\"https://janebuehler.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Jane Buehler at her website!</a></p><p><br></p><p>We also mentioned:</p><ul><li><a href=\"https://smartbitchestrashybooks.com/2023/02/the-rec-league-vaginismus/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Our Reg League on books with vaginismus</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.reddit.com/r/RomanceBooks/comments/wfe2qz/books_where_the_fmc_has_vaginismus_or_similar/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">A Reddit r/RomanceBooks thread on similar recs&nbsp;</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLcS0xjJs-N1AXBHa4zGp1jLxuOrZdW-qo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Britain by Narrowboat (YouTube)</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/@CruisingTheCut\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Cruising the Cut (YouTube)</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8zRI7xwN_mU&amp;ab_channel=ChrisCole\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Great Canal Journeys (YouTube)</a></li><li>Episodes with Jen Gunter:</li><li><a href=\"https://smartbitchestrashybooks.com/podcast/367-the-vagina-bible-shoes-and-other-essentials-a-conversation-with-dr-jen-gunter/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">367. The Vagina Bible, Shoes, and Other Essentials: A Conversation with Dr. Jen Gunter</a></li><li><a href=\"https://smartbitchestrashybooks.com/podcast/459-facts-feminism-and-menopause-with-dr-jen-gunter/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">459. Facts, Feminism, and Menopause with Dr. Jen Gunter</a></li><li><a href=\"https://jamigold.com/2019/10/romance-beats-vs-12-stages-of-intimacy/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">JamiGold.com: Romance Beats vs the 12 Stages of Intimacy&nbsp;</a></li><li><a href=\"https://pelvicfloorcenter.org/biofeedback/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Pelvic Floor Biofeedback</a></li></ul><p><br></p>","author_name":"Sarah Wendell"}