In this episode we discuss the feeling of unfairness if we let someone off the hook! If we forgive, does that mean we need to forget? And does that make us naïve? There is an ‘unsafe’ feeling when someone we thought we knew acts in a way we weren’t expecting. We may feel that it says something about us – that we are too vulnerable, something has been exposed and that can feel scary.
But, when we hold a grudge, does the other person even know they have wronged us, and that we are dwelling on the upset?! We can hold on to it because we don’t want to discuss it – mostly we do not like conflict.
So how can we deal with our feelings in a way that stops us from suffering with the grudge? We discuss strategies to help us let go, and move past to the end result we would like.