What if success isn’t something you achieve… but something you become?
In this powerful episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with Volker Ballueder, coach, therapist, author, and host of Stories of Success, for a deep conversation about what success really means in today’s world.
After interviewing high performers and building a successful corporate career, Volker realised that money, status, and external validation were never the full answer. Like many people, he discovered that reaching society’s version of success can still leave you feeling empty.
Together, we explore the difference between success and fulfilment, why so many men silently struggle under pressure, and how emotional intelligence may be one of the most important skills we never get taught.
We also discuss comparison culture, social media, midlife reflection, mindfulness, education, parenting, and the importance of helping young people define success for themselves, not through grades, job titles, or wealth, but through values, purpose, connection, and inner peace.
This episode is for anyone questioning the path they’re on… feeling the pressure to keep achieving… or searching for a more meaningful definition of success.
Volker shares honest reflections on chasing money earlier in life, how redundancy pushed him toward coaching and therapy, and why helping others now feels more rewarding than any corporate milestone ever did.
We also talk openly about men’s mental health, suicide prevention, vulnerability, and why asking one simple question, You Alright Mate?, can change lives.
A thoughtful, honest, and timely conversation about identity, fulfilment, masculinity, and what it means to live a life true to yourself.
00:00 Introduction
02:10 You Alright Mate?
03:10 How Volker Defines Success
04:45 Chasing Money vs Finding Fulfilment
07:45 Lifelong Learning & Education
10:40 School Systems & Different Types of Intelligence
15:30 Emotional Intelligence in Schools
24:00 Creativity, Curiosity & Child-Led Learning
28:40 Comparison Culture & Social Media
31:55 Living True to Yourself
38:50 What High Achievers Taught Volker About Success
45:10 Why Purpose Matters More Than Money
55:30 Being Enough As You Are
59:55 Midlife Crisis or Midlife Awakening?
1:03:10 Why Men Don’t Talk
1:08:20 Vulnerability Is Strength
1:17:40 Preventing Crisis Before It Happens
1:22:40 Mindfulness & Self-Awareness
1:31:15 Habits of Successful People
1:45:15 What To Do If You’re Struggling
1:54:55 Advice to Younger Volker
1:55:34 What Does A Life Well Lived Look Like?
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ballueder/
Website: https://obnat.us/
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