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If we fail and make it mean there’s something flawed in our character, or personality, or inherit worth – and we think those things are unchangeable no matter how much effort we expend...then we are linking failure to our worthiness.
This of course, is not true. We're inherently worthy. Full stop. Not contingent on anything.
Need proof? Are you breathing? You're alive? You're worthy.
Many of us have a sordid relationship with failure. We think if we fail, we aren't good enough. If we make a mistake, it means we aren't good enough.
Remember, perfectionism wants us to believe in only black and white, and all-or-nothing.
Trauma wants us to believe there has to be a trade-off. One or the other. Only two choices.
In this episode I offer a perspective shift: give yourself more than two choices, more than all-or-nothing or just black and white.
There can be grey, in between. There can be hundreds of choices!
It can be \"yes-and\" (for my improv actors out there).
You can: fail AND be worthy; make a mistake AND still be lovable. 🤯
Those concepts don't belong together, they are separate. Worthiness doesn't belong to any other concept. It just is.
You are worthy. Full stop. Just cuz you're here.
Failure is it's own concept. It doesn't have to mean anything other than \"more practice required\".
We can stop beating ourselves up and treating common failures as epic failures.
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As with all my work (and well, most everything), please listen with consideration of context, nuance, and discernment.
This podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Métis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca.
The podcast music is called Full Light Up the Stars by Gyom
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