{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/62065bcba23a7d00124291e8/6206774bef769a00149f5c1a?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"The People Pleasing Layer","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/undefined/1644583327248-60d9c6a237b6a8f6bf5d0338ed67dc5d.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>Ooof. People pleasing.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>I'm not vilifying it completely - sometimes we need to people please for a lot of different reasons - but let's be <strong>discerning and aware </strong>of our choices.</p><p><br></p><p>This is important because it keeps us in our own sovereignty, in our own power, and protects us from a victim mentality. A victim mentality feels terrible, like you have no control, life is happening \"to you\" and not \"for you\". Subtle but HUGE difference when it comes to living authentically.</p><p><br></p><p>This takes self-awareness, fails, and practice. So have self-compassion and patience for yourself learning new skills.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>And by the way, did you know:</strong>&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><ul><li>you have the right to say no without feeling guilty</li></ul><p><br></p><ul><li>you have the right to make mistakes, to course correct, or change your mind (and you don't have to explain yourself)</li></ul><p><br></p><ul><li>you have a right to your preferences, feelings, and needs (even with they're misunderstood or disagreed with)</li></ul><p><br></p><ul><li>you have the right to create boundaries that feel good to you (even though the people that benefited from your lack of boundaries will not like it)</li></ul><p><br></p><ul><li>you have the right to prioritize your self-care and this does not make you selfish</li></ul><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Honestly - it took me a long time to realize these things. I didn't know I was \"aloud\" to make boundaries. I didn't know that a feeling is a good enough reason for any decision. It is.&nbsp;❤️</p><p><br></p><p>I read somewhere that it's ok to decline invites when you have white space in your calendar. You can be busy watching Netflix, having a bath, or doing nothing. Busy also means unavailable for what you were asked to do. This is OK.</p><p><br></p><p>Also - Season 3 of the podcast is ALL about people pleasing :)</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Craving more authenticity?</p><p><a href=\"https://open.acast.com/shows/62065bcba23a7d00124291e8/episodes/www.makingspacewithjen.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Website </strong></a></p><p><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/making_space_with_jen\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>IG @making_space_with_jen</strong></a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>GO AND MAKE SOME SPACE FOR YOURSELF</strong></p><p><br></p><p>As with all my work (and well, most everything), please listen with consideration of context, nuance, and discernment.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>This podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Métis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca.&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Podcast music by Elliot Middleton \"An Exciting Future\"</p>","author_name":"Jen Pillipow"}