You hit the income goal, paid off the debt and built the life you dreamed of. So why does it still feel like it could all disappear? After I crashed out on Instagram asking “does it ever actually get to feel safe?”, so many of you told me I needed to talk to Saskia Katherine. Saskia is a spiritual mentor, educator and creator of The Integration Map, and she helps high-achieving women move from survival to self-trust. We talk about why milestones don’t make you feel safe, the signs you’re living in survival mode, being the responsible one in a first-gen family, wealth guilt, and why calm isn’t the goal. Saskia also leads a short guided practice live on the show so make sure you listen until the end!
WE GET INTO:
00:00 Episode preview
00:47 Welcome + meet Saskia Katherine
03:01 What safety meant growing up
05:33 From education leader to inner child work
08:55 The imaginary finish line: why milestones still don't feel safe
12:08 Signs you're living in survival mode
15:32 The "responsible one" in first-gen families
18:27 Can high achievers avoid burnout?
23:12 Why knowing your patterns isn't enough
30:55 Wealth guilt, grief & building self-trust
34:37 Loneliness, growth & the clarity that comes with age
37:58 New and uncomfortable vs. not right for you
42:25 What self-trust really means
43:12 Nervous system regulation vs. self-suppression
50:06 Guided practice: "When does it ever get to feel safe?"
57:33 Janice's breakthrough moment
58:30 Where to find Saskia + free resources
1:00:30 Closing thoughts
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
→ Reaching the milestone doesn’t automatically make you feel safe. A younger part of you may still be running the show
→ Survival mode looks like compulsive account checking, holding your breath at checkout, or spending money the second it lands
→ Being the responsible one is practiced. Every time your needs came second, you taught yourself they don’t matter
→ Keep the hustle. Just stop making it responsible for proving your worth
→ It’s not self-sabotage. It’s protection, and it responds to compassion
→ You can make the right choice and still grieve what you left behind
→ Fear doesn’t mean it’s the wrong move. Ask what that part of you needs to feel safe
→ Calm isn’t the goal. A healthy nervous system activates and comes back down
CONNECT WITH SASKIA:
Instagram: @saskia.katherine
Website: saskiakatherine.com
Free guided session: saskiakatherine.com/freebie
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This episode of Yo Quiero Dinero was produced by Heart Centered Podcasting.
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