{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6199599c-453b-4c85-ad1f-9cdbf22ed6d8/62e2257a78c12f0012f3a8d3?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"338: How to stop competing with your friendship group","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/610d0e0e7dad155e800842b5/show-cover.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>If you find yourself forever competing with your friendship group, this episode is for you.</p><p><br></p><p>The chat was inspired by the book,&nbsp;<em>My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante</em>, a story revolved around the friendship and rivalry between 2 girls growing up in post WWII Naples. The themes in the book are relatable, even though I grew up in Australia in the 1990s and 2000s. I remember feeling rejected with sense of competition between friends. Feeling lonely, like an outcast. The jealousy and the worry of what others think. Not only a fantastic, can’t put it down kinda read, it inspires reflection of your own life.</p><p><br></p><p>No wonder this book series (yes there are 3 more books to read) is so popular.</p><p><br></p><h3><strong>This is what we spoke about during the episode</strong></h3><ul><li>You can be competitive with each other but still, want each other to succeed.</li><li>Competition can create suffering.&nbsp;</li><li>Having an ally over a competitor is just a more joyful way to live. When you help each other, it’s a productive relationship.</li><li>Reflect and check in, what’s your sense of competition like. Is it bringing good or is it bringing others and yourself down?</li><li>Jealousy can be a big reason why friendships become toxic. What can you do about it?</li><li>If it does not come naturally to you, being happy for someone else is a practice.</li><li>Seek inspiration and motivation from someone else’s success. Get out of your ego. Let go of the competition.</li></ul><p><br></p><p>If you loved this episode, send us an email at&nbsp;carla@themerrymakersisters.com&nbsp;or&nbsp;emma@themerrymakersisters.com&nbsp;or message us on our Facebook and Instagram accounts @themerrymakersisters.</p><p><br></p><p>Download our&nbsp;<a href=\"https://themerrymakersisters.com/selfcare/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">FREE Self Care Checklist</a>&nbsp;and you’ll find 50 brand new ideas to practice self care.</p><p><br></p><p>Always merrymaking,</p><p>Emma + Carla</p><p><br></p><p>P.s if you ever need further help or guidance please contact&nbsp;<a href=\"https://www.lifeline.org.au/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Lifeline</a>&nbsp;or&nbsp;<a href=\"https://www.beyondblue.org.au/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Beyond Blue</a>. Asking for help is pure courage.</p>","author_name":"Emma and Carla Papas"}