You can build the career, the home, and the life you love, and still quietly wish someone were there to share it with you. So why does admitting it feel like giving something up?
In this episode, we talk with Treva Brandon Scharf, ICF-certified life coach, dating coach, and author of Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love, about the tension so many independent women feel between the life they’ve built and the love they still want. With her warmth, humor, and hard-won honesty, Treva shares her own long road to love, which didn’t arrive until she was 51.
Together, we sit with the questions behind the pride. What are we protecting when we say we don’t need anyone? Can you believe in feminism and still enjoy traditional romance? And what is modern dating quietly doing to even the most confident women?
Episode Resources
✨ Free dating tools from Treva: break-up tips and first date conversation starters on her website, plus a 20% coaching discount for Project Loving Myself listeners
✨ Take my Love Blocks Quiz: discover which patterns may be shaping the way you approach your love life and show up in your relationships.
In this episode, we explore:
✨ Why admitting you want love can feel like losing power
✨ What independent women may be protecting when they say they don’t need anyone
✨ Whether feminism and traditional romance can live in the same heart
✨ What modern dating can bring out in even the most self-assured women
✨ What changed for Treva when love finally arrived at 51
If you’ve ever played down how much you want love so your independence stays intact, this conversation may change the way you think about wanting it.
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📚 Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love
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