{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/67f7cac5bb8fcfee75bac251?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"1417 || resisting DARVO + how to change minds","description":"<p><strong>Megan Phelp’s 4 rules for productively engaging with people who you disagree with:</strong></p><ul><li>Don’t assume bad intent but instead, assume good or neutral intent.</li><li>Ask questions: This signals that the person is being heard, and they also feel safer to ask questions in return.</li><li>Stay calm: \"right\" doesn’t justify \"rude\". Pause, step away, use a digital buffer for social media exchanges, and then come back. </li><li>Make the argument: don’t assume the value of your position should be obvious; it isn’t to others. If we want them to change, make the case for it.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>DARVO</strong>: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim + Offender - Aggressive avoidance of accountability</p><p><strong>SEP</strong>: Somebody Else's Problem - Passive avoidance of accountability</p><p><br></p><p>Tips for talking to people you disagree with: <a href=\"https://ideas.ted.com/4-tips-for-talking-to-people-you-disagree-with/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://ideas.ted.com/4-tips-for-talking-to-people-you-disagree-with/</a></p><p>DARVO wiki: <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO</a></p><p>SEP wiki: <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somebody_else%27s_problem\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somebody_else%27s_problem</a></p><p><br></p><p>Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund:<a href=\"http://www.pcrf.net/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> www.pcrf.net</a></p><p><br></p><p>GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href=\"https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com</a></p><p>TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href=\"https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast</a></p><p>OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href=\"https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast</a></p><p><em>OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE:</em><a href=\"http://www.youtube.com/juliemerica\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em> www.youtube.com/juliemerica</em></a><em>&nbsp;</em></p><p><br></p><p><em>The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.</em></p>","author_name":"Julie Merica"}