Do the prep work, then forget about it. You’re more likely to be able to handle whatever the universe throws at you if you’re already ready to handle what was expected.
It’s less stress to prepare for a mess than it is to be surprised by one.
Most of the time, I am proud to be the prepared friend. My official @MYDBPodcast tote bag is never lacking on snacks, lotions, hot sauces, or pens. I carry a sewing kit, and I’ve typically mapped the place and scoped the menu a few times before we arrive. If they do reservations, I will call them on the way to make sure we’re not forced to wait any more than we have to.