This episode is the eighth and final installment of our multi-episode series, aiming to guide you in alchemizing and transmuting your toxic shame. Discover the insidious nature of toxic shame and its potential role as the root cause behind our ongoing suffering and emotional turmoil. At the core of self-sabotage, toxic shame leaves us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected from others. Learn how internalized toxic shame manifests uniquely in individuals, evident through feelings of unworthiness, negative self-talk, perfectionism, fear of vulnerability, struggles with intimacy, boundary challenges, chronic self-consciousness, avoidant behaviors, negative body image, and emotional instability.
TIME STAMPS:
00:00 – 11:45: How “underworld experiences” can help bring us closer towards healing
11:45 – 25:05: Understanding the connection between religious trauma and toxic shame
25:05 – 29:41: The denial of secondary causality as the insidious and toxically shaming distortion of many religions
29:07 – 32:55: Spiritual bypassing and how religion is used to deny or suppress “bad” emotions
32:55 – 36:32: Religious addiction and perfectionism as mediated by psychological inflexibility
40:09 – 49:34: Healing toxic shame when it has become a cultural norm (how shame is baked into our modern culture)
49:28 – 01:03:05: How rigid sex roles foster the development of internalized toxic shame
01:03:05 – 01:08:25: The impact of mass cultural denial and suppression of emotion
01:08:25 – 01:17:38: Healing from toxic shame (a starting point)
PREMIUM PORTION:
01:19:10 – 01:27:44: Listener question from Amy (what to do when you’re buried in toxic shame)
01:27:09 – 01:39:54: Listener question from Teresa (dealing with splitting, overthinking and PMS in a new relationship)
01:39:54 – 01:54:34: Listener question from Gia (can you be TOO self-aware?)
01:54:34 – 02:01:57: Outro + premium submarine updates and reflections
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The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.
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