In this episode, Jessica Pan discusses her book 'Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come' and her journey of embracing extroversion. As we discuss on the show, Jessica is almost the opposite to me – she’s an introvert who learnt to be more extraverted, whereas I started exploring Alonement as a means of dealing with my fear, as an extrovert, of being alone. She tells me about her journey to embrace solo travel, socialising with strangers and making new friends, all with the help of her 'extrovert mentors'. What this following episode touches on is the importance of balance and choice around how we spend our alone time, plus how learning to integrate more connection in your life can help you fall back in love with your solitude. We also touch on the loneliness of big cities, particularly London, and how Jessica has managed to curate her own tiny village within the UK capital. Jessica also talks about starting her Substack newsletter, It'll Be Fun, They Said, based on part-time job working in a local independent bookshop. Finally, she shares her favourite kinds of alone time, which involves reading by the ocean and journaling in a cafe.
Takeaways
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Background
02:21
Different Journeys, Same Goal
03:42
The Fluidity of Introversion and Extroversion
04:10
The Pleasure of Working in a Bookshop
05:31
Starting the Substack Newsletter
06:30
Choosing Pleasure and Storytelling
08:25
The Enchantment of Working in a Bookshop
09:50
The Joy of Working in a Bookshop
10:46
The Aspirational Lifestyle of Working in a Bookshop
11:02
Balancing Work and Alone Time
12:57
The Privilege and Prison of Being Alone
13:57
Choosing to Be Alone
14:25
The Nuance of Enjoying Alone Time
15:24
The Universal Loneliness Problem
16:48
The Counterintuitive Decision to Be an Extrovert
17:18
The Loneliness of Metropolitan Life
19:10
The Surprise Solo Travel Experience
23:12
The Challenges of Solo Travel
25:08
The Benefit of Extrovert Mentors
32:50
Favorite Extrovert Adventures
36:36
Gaining Compassion for Introverted Parts
40:05
Tips for Spending Time Alone
45:27
Appreciating Introverted Parts of Yourself
46:26
Creating a Village in the City
49:21
Curating a Community
51:17
Creating Connections
52:15
Favourite Alone Time
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You can follow Jessica Pan's Substack at jesspan.substack.com, and my own at francescaspecter.substack.com
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