{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6074336b81f6d26b0fd553e2/64a28fc86cdcdc00112378fb?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Dr Nicole Lepera: How A Fear of Being Alone Feels In Your Body ","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/6074336b81f6d26b0fd553e2/1644580499620-79eaa3c21b6898f3a17b9cddaedd1472.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>This week’s guest is Dr Nicole LePera, whom you might be more familiar with as the Holistic Psychologist – the handle of her somewhat insanely popular Instagram account. She’s also the author of multiple books, including her New York bestseller How To Do The Work, and her latest title, a workbook called How To Meet Your Self. With fans including Elizabeth Day, Dr Rangan Chatterjee and Mel Robbins, Nicole’s popularity is justified – with her succinct but hard-hitting social media posts bringing therapeutic insight out of the expensive and often inaccessible clinical space and in front of the 9 million people who follow her on social media.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>We discuss, among other things:</p><ul><li>The practical challenge of alone time when you’re in a throuple, or three-person relationship, as Nicole is [5:40]</li><li>How Nicole developed a fearful relationship with being alone in childhood [8:10]</li><li>How your body can go into a ‘threat state’ when you’re alone [10:45]</li><li>Nicole’s experience of struggling with being physically alone in her early twenties [15:05]</li><li>How to practically teach yourself to cope better with alone time through Nicole’s five-minute exercise[18:16]</li><li>Can you learn to be alone through therapy? [20:51]</li><li>How to avoid the addictive trap of ‘self-help’ [26:51]</li><li>Why Nicole is passionate about mental health advice being widely accessible via social media [33:31]</li><li>Practical advice for engaging with self-help content sensibly [37:08]</li><li>Why Nicole’s favourite alone time involves nudity (not like that!] [41:18]</li></ul><p><br></p><p>You can find links to Dr Nicole Lepera’s latest workbook on <a href=\"https://howtomeetyourself.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">howtomeetyourself.com</a>. Subscribe to my weekly email newsletter at <a href=\"https://francescaspecter.substack.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">francescaspecter.substack.com</a> to follow my personal writing plus podcast bonus content. You can also order my book, <em>Alonement: How To Be Alone and Absolutely Own It, </em>which is based on this very podcast, now from<a href=\"https://www.amazon.co.uk/Alonement-Francesca-Specter/dp/1529412617\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> Amazon</a>, <a href=\"https://www.waterstones.com/book/alonement/francesca-specter//9781529412611\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">&nbsp;Waterstones</a> and <a href=\"https://uk.bookshop.org/a/3598/9781529412611\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Bookshop.org</a>. Thank you so much to WestLab for sponsoring this season of the podcast. Visit <a href=\"https://westlabsalts.co.uk/products/dead-sea-salt\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">westlabsalts.co.uk/products/dead-sea-salt</a> and quote the code ALONEMENT15 for 15% off when you spend £10 or more, excludes subscriptions,T&amp;Cs apply. Code expires 31st August 2023.</p><p><br></p><p>Twitter:</p><p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/ChezSpecter\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@ChezSpecter</a> <a href=\"https://twitter.com/Theholisticpsyc\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@theholisticpsych</a></p><p>Instagram:</p><p><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/chezspecter/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@ChezSpecter</a> <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@the.holistic.psychologist</a></p>","author_name":"Francesca Specter"}