{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6074336b81f6d26b0fd553e2/6490d15fbf64170011ede6b5?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Susan Cain: The 'Quiet' Author On Free Falling Through Her Early 30s, Plus Why She Married An Extrovert","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/6074336b81f6d26b0fd553e2/1644580499620-79eaa3c21b6898f3a17b9cddaedd1472.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>The Alonement podcast is back! And for the first episode of this season, I’m speaking to one of the most-requested guests since the show began: Susan Cain. Susan is the author of <em>Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking</em>, a book which spent eight years on the New York bestseller list after its publication in 2012. The book was inspired by her former career as a Wall Street lawyer, a profession where she came face-to-face with what she identified as a Western bias towards extroversion in the workplace. In Quiet, she celebrates the traits of introverted people, including their capacity for reflection and solitude. In April 2022, Susan published <em>Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole</em>, which is an exploration of how embracing life’s sadness, as well as its positive moments, can be the pathway to a greater appreciation of beauty and wonder.</p><p><br></p><p>We discuss, among other things:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>How Susan navigates busy publicity cycles as an introvert [4:49]</li><li>Free trait theory [10:03]</li><li>The ‘Alone togetherness’ of spaces like Starbucks, co-working spaces &amp; family homes [14:28]</li><li>Why Susan Cain’s unpublished memoir was called ‘Freefall’&nbsp; [23:21]</li><li>Why the act of being creative is inherently bittersweet [25:05]</li><li>The relationship between alone time, religion and spirituality [29:08]</li><li>Susan’s critique of positive psychology [31:32]</li><li>Why Susan is a ‘happy melancholic’ [33:15]</li><li>A different look at romantic obsession – and how it can help us learn more about our deeper internal desires [34:16]</li><li>Should introverts only date extroverts – and vice versa? [39:16]</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Cultural references from our conversation:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>‘Only connect’, the epigraph to EM Forster’s <em>Howard’s End</em></li><li>Ryan Little’s ‘Free Trait Theory’</li><li>The film Splendour in the Grass</li><li>The ‘Bittersweet’ playlist created to accompany Susan’s latest book</li><li>The discipline of positive psychology, founded by Martin Seligman</li><li>The Myers Briggs personality test</li></ul><p><br></p><p>You can purchase all of Susan Cain’s books, including <em>Quiet</em> and <em>Bittersweet, </em>on <a href=\"https://susancain.net/books/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">susancain.net/books</a>.</p><p><br></p><p>Subscribe to my&nbsp;weekly email newsletter at <a href=\"https://francescaspecter.substack.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">francescaspecter.substack.com</a> to follow my personal writing plus podcast bonus content. You can also order my book, <em>Alonement: How To Be Alone and Absolutely Own It, </em>which is based on this very podcast, now from<a href=\"https://www.amazon.co.uk/Alonement-Francesca-Specter/dp/1529412617\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> Amazon</a>, <a href=\"https://www.waterstones.com/book/alonement/francesca-specter//9781529412611\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">&nbsp;Waterstones</a> and <a href=\"https://uk.bookshop.org/a/3598/9781529412611\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Bookshop.org</a>.</p><p><br></p><p>Thank you so much to WestLab for sponsoring this season of the podcast. <em>Their bestselling Dead Sea bath salt range is a skin hero, containing a unique blend of magnesium, calcium and potassium, which is brilliant for protecting and repairing your skin barrier and managing conditions like eczema, psoriasis, acne and sensitive skin. </em>Visit <a href=\"https://westlabsalts.co.uk/products/dead-sea-salt\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">westlabsalts.co.uk/products/dead-sea-salt</a> and quote the code ALONEMENT15 for 15% off when you spend £10 or more, excludes subscriptions,T&amp;Cs apply. Code expires 31st August 2023.</p><p><br></p><p>Social links: @ChezSpecter on Instagram &amp; Twitter, while Susan is @susancain on Twitter and @susancainauthor on Instagram.</p>","author_name":"Francesca Specter"}