{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5feb4060803000789a554e29/6ab36078f98781f91dbc434a?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"When Kindness Feels Dangerous","description":"<p>Have you ever tried to be kinder to yourself, and ended up feeling worse instead of better?</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, Leah Davidson unpacks &quot;backdraft&quot;, a term borrowed from firefighting that explains why self-compassion can sometimes trigger anxiety, grief, or resistance instead of relief. She breaks down why this happens, what it means about your nervous system&#39;s old protective patterns, and how to practice kindness in a way your body can actually receive.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Key Takeaways:</strong></p><ul><li>Backdraft happens when kindness &quot;opens the door&quot; on feelings your body had been managing all along, it doesn&#39;t create the distress, it reveals it.</li><li>Your nervous system checks new kindness against past experience, if warmth once came with conditions, it learns to treat kindness as unsafe.</li><li>Self-criticism often isn&#39;t just a bad habit, it can function as protection, control, or a shield against rejection.</li><li>Resistance to compassion isn&#39;t malfunction, it&#39;s old information showing up in a new moment.</li><li>The fix isn&#39;t more compassion, all at once, it&#39;s smaller, slower doses you can actually hold.</li><li>Naming backdraft when it happens (&quot;ah, this is backdraft&quot;) interrupts the spiral of self-blame.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>LINKS AND RESOURCES:</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>The Art of Regulation: Doodle Your Nervous System Bundle (Physical journal, worldwide shipping, bonus content and bonus workshop): <u><a href=\"https://www.skool.com/doodle-your-nervous-system-5944/about\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.skool.com/doodle-your-nervous-system-5944/about</a></u></strong></p><p><strong>Advanced Training in Nervous System Resilience : <u><a href=\"https://leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com/coach-training-join\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com/coach-training-join</a></u> </strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>COMMUNITY</strong></p><p><strong>MIDLIFE NERVOUS SYSTEM REWIRE COMMUNITY 👑</strong>: A low pressure, fun community for “Queenagers” to regulate, not fix, their midlife nervous systems.</p><p><strong>Join here: </strong><u><a href=\"https://www.skool.com/midlife-nervous-system-rewire/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.skool.com/midlife-nervous-system-rewire/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1</a></u></p><p><br></p><p><strong>MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:</strong></p><p><strong>1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: </strong>A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care</p><p><a href=\"https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> </a><strong><u><a href=\"https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Amazon US</a> </u></strong>-<a href=\"https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> </a><u><a href=\"https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj</a></u></p><p><br></p><p>2) <strong>MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SET</strong></p><p><strong>Amazon US - </strong><a href=\"https://a.co/d/2mANQs4\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://a.co/d/2mANQs4</a></p><p><br></p><p>3) <strong>WORRY TIME PAD : </strong></p><p><strong>Amazon US </strong><u><a href=\"http://bit.ly/3QSvyv1\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">http://bit.ly/3QSvyv1</a></u></p><p><br></p><p><strong>LET&#39;S STAY CONNECTED</strong></p><p><strong>Subscribe to Midlife Recalibrated here:</strong> <u><a href=\"https://substack.com/@midliferecalibrated\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://substack.com/@midliferecalibrated</a></u></p><p><strong>INSTAGRAM:</strong><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/leahdavidsonlifecoaching/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> </a><u><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/leahdavidsonlifecoaching/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.instagram.com/leahdavidsonlifecoaching/</a></u></p><p><strong>FACEBOOK:<a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/leahdavidsonlifecoaching\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> </a></strong><u><a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/leahdavidsonlifecoaching\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.facebook.com/leahdavidsonlifecoaching</a></u></p><p><strong>WEBSITE:</strong> <u><a href=\"http://wwww.leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">wwww.leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com</a></u></p>","author_name":" Leah Davidson"}