{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5eaa17597073432b7f5a651b/6abb01216ffb28f8d68d08ea?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"109. Self as Context: You Are Not the Description","description":"<p>There is a difference between having a description and being one.</p><p><br></p><p>An email comes in asking you to run the training, and before you finish reading it, your mind says, &quot;I am not a teacher. I am not that kind of person.&quot; You get hooked, you write back something gracious, and you route it to somebody else.</p><p><br></p><p>This episode is about self as context, one of the six core psychological processes in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and it is the one Dr. Z finds the hardest to explain and the most useful once it lands.</p><p><br></p><p>The episode draws the line between self as content (every description your mind produces of who you are) and self as context (the place all of those descriptions show up). Not a better description of you. The room the furniture is in.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>What you will learn:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Self as content versus self as context and why a description of yourself does not feel like a thought, but like a fact about your species.</li><li>How this differs from defusion, which the two processes get confused for constantly.</li><li>The four costs of living only in the description, including why you end up defending the descriptions that hurt you.</li><li>Why the flattering labels cost you just as much: “I am the strong one, I am the reliable one, I am the person who never drops the ball.”</li><li>The chessboard: both armies are yours, which is why you have never been able to win that fight.</li><li>The continuity demonstration: what the nine-year-old, the twenty-two-year-old, and you actually have in common.</li><li>Why self-esteem work keeps you inside the description, arguing about the score.</li><li>Four practices, including the two words that do the whole job in four seconds.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li><strong>Values-Based Review: Life Audit (free) →</strong> <a href=\"https://proud-snow-5694.ck.page/d2a5e77ba3\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://proud-snow-5694.ck.page/d2a5e77ba3</a></li><li><strong>Playing-It-Safe Questionnaire (free) →</strong> <a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/</a></li><li><strong>ACT Coaching for anxiety-based struggles →</strong> <a href=\"https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/act-coaching/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/act-coaching/</a></li><li><strong>Therapy at East Bay Behavior Therapy Center →</strong> <a href=\"https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>About Dr. Z</strong></p><p><br></p><p>Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona (Dr. Z) is a licensed psychologist, author of eight books, and TEDx speaker who has spent over 18 years helping overthinkers and overachievers stop letting anxiety make their decisions. She is the founder of East Bay Behavior Therapy Center in Walnut Creek, California, and the host of the Playing It Safe podcast. Her TEDx talk &quot;Stop Playing It Safe and Start Living&quot; has over 267,000 views.</p><p><br></p><p>And if this episode is helpful, I welcome a review on Apple Podcast.</p><p>_______</p><p>STOP LETTING ANXIETY MAKE YOUR DECISIONS</p><p><br></p><p>WHO AM I?</p><p><br></p><p>My name is Patricia E. Zurita Ona, but my clients call me Dr. Z.</p><p><br></p><p>I’m a psychologist, a passionate behaviorist, and a person that loves to make behavioral science accessible for day-to-day life. I specialize in Acceptance and Commitment skills (ACT), a form of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT).</p><p><br></p><p>I have significant experience – over 18 years – working with individuals dealing with anxiety-based struggles such as perfectionism, procrastination, chronic indecision, phobias, OCD, panic, worry, and any other anxiety-related difficulties.</p><p><br></p><p>I&#39;ve published books on ACT, given a TEDx talk with 267K+ views, founded East Bay Behavior Therapy Center, and spent two decades proving one thing: Your anxiety doesn&#39;t need fixing. It needs listening to. Because most of the time, anxiety is just trying to keep you safe, the problem is when &quot;safe&quot; becomes &quot;stuck.&quot; And once you know the difference, everything changes.</p><p><br></p><p>My website is packed with resources, courses and content that will help you break free from those &quot;playing-it-safe&quot; moves and make the most out of your life!</p><p><br></p><p>GET ACT SKILLS IN YOUR INBOX:</p><p><br></p><p>Sign up to my newsletter to get actionable skills into your inbox! <a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-newsletter/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-newsletter/</a></p>","author_name":"Dr. Z. - Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D. "}