{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5eaa17597073432b7f5a651b/6a87853edcddb5e3cf741e1d?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"106. Experiential Avoidance: The Hidden Way We Play-It-Safe","description":"<p>You're not avoiding the conversation. You're avoiding how it will feel to have it.</p><p><br></p><p>If you've ever reorganized your inbox instead of making the difficult call or started researching instead of starting the thing, this episode is for you.</p><p><br></p><p>This episode unpacks experiential avoidance: the  mechanism underneath every playing-it-safe behavior.</p><p><br></p><p>What you will learn:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>What experiential avoidance actually is, in plain language, no jargon, and why it's the engine behind ALL playing-it-safe behaviors including procrastination, overthinking, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.</li><li>Why your avoidance is intelligent and well-intentioned, and what it's costing you anyway.</li><li>What psychological research tells us about how experiential avoidance predicts psychological suffering across every population studied.</li><li>Willingness, and why it is NOT positive thinking, spiritual bypass, or \"just feeling your feelings.\"</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Resources mentioned:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>Playing-it-safe questionnaire: <a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/</a></li><li>ACT Beyond Perfectionism (online course): <a href=\"https://courses.thisisdoctorz.com/act-beyond-perfectionism\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://courses.thisisdoctorz.com/act-beyond-perfectionism</a></li><li>ACT for Indecisiveness (online course): <a href=\"https://courses.thisisdoctorz.com/how-to-shift-from-indecisiveness-into-action\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://courses.thisisdoctorz.com/how-to-shift-from-indecisiveness-into-action</a></li><li>Values-Based Life Audit (free resource): <a href=\"https://proud-snow-5694.ck.page/d2a5e77ba3\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://proud-snow-5694.ck.page/d2a5e77ba3</a></li><li>ACT Coaching at East Bay Behavior Therapy Center: <a href=\"https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/act-coaching/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/act-coaching/</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>About Dr. Z:</p><p><br></p><p>Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona (Dr. Z) is a licensed psychologist, author of eight books, and TEDx speaker who has spent over 18 years helping overthinkers and overachievers stop letting anxiety make their decisions. She is the founder of East Bay Behavior Therapy Center in Walnut Creek, California, and the host of the Playing It Safe podcast. Her TEDx talk \"Stop Playing It Safe and Start Living\" has over 266,000 views.</p><p><br></p><p>If this episode helped you recognize one playing-it-safe move in your own life, a review on Apple Podcasts means everything to me. I read every single one.</p><p>_______</p><p><br></p><p>STOP LETTING ANXIETY MAKE YOUR DECISIONS</p><p><br></p><p>WHO AM I?</p><p><br></p><p>My name is Patricia E. Zurita Ona, but my clients call me Dr. Z.</p><p><br></p><p>I’m a psychologist, a passionate behaviorist, and a person that loves to make behavioral science accessible for day-to-day life. I specialize in Acceptance and Commitment skills (ACT), a form of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT).</p><p><br></p><p>I have significant experience – over 18 years – working with individuals dealing with anxiety-based struggles such as perfectionism, procrastination, chronic indecision, phobias, OCD, panic, worry, and any other anxiety-related difficulties.</p><p><br></p><p>I've published books on ACT, given a TEDx talk with 260K+ views, founded East Bay Behavior Therapy Center, and spent two decades proving one thing: Your anxiety doesn't need fixing. It needs listening to. Because most of the time, anxiety is just trying to keep you safe, the problem is when \"safe\" becomes \"stuck.\" And once you know the difference, everything changes.</p><p><br></p><p>My website is packed with resources, courses and content that will help you break free from those \"playing-it-safe\" moves and make the most out of your life!</p><p><br></p><p>GET ACT SKILLS IN YOUR INBOX:</p><p><br></p><p>Sign up to my newsletter to get actionable skills into your inbox! <a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-newsletter/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-newsletter/</a></p><p><br></p><p>HERE IS WHERE TO START</p><p><br></p><p>1. TAKE THE PLAYING-IT-SAFE QUESTIONNAIRE: <a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/</a></p><p><br></p><p>2. ONLINE COURSES: <a href=\"https://courses.thisisdoctorz.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://courses.thisisdoctorz.com/</a></p><p><br></p><p>3. PODCAST: <a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-podcast/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-podcast/</a></p><p><br></p><p>4. BOOKS: <a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/books/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/books/</a></p><p><br></p><p>5. BLOG: <a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-blog/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-blog/</a></p>","author_name":"Dr. Z. - Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D. "}