{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5eaa17597073432b7f5a651b/6525d67696b6fc0012c7482c?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"83. When self-compassion gets tough: navigating common barriers","description":"<p>Self-compassion is the willingness to respond to your pain and suffering in the same way a good friend of yours might–with warmth, patience, and understanding. That sounds easy, right? But you know it isn’t.</p><p><br></p><p>For many, self-criticism is a classic playing-it-safe move. It’s like your mind is a champion at criticizing you in response to those moments in which you feel anxious about something that has happened or could happen.</p><p><br></p><p>Which of the following fear statements resonate with you?</p><p><br></p><ul><li>If I’m kind to myself, I will become a weak person.</li><li>I need to be hard on myself or I will never get everything done.</li><li>I don’t deserve kindness.</li><li>A harsh approach keeps me from making mistakes or keeps me disciplined.</li><li>Self-criticism motivates me all the time.</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Ask yourself: “Am I afraid of compassion?”</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I chat with Paul Gilbert, the developer of Compassion Focused Therapy.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Key Takeaways</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>The beginnings of Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)</li><li>4 steps to compassionately deal with your inner critic</li><li>The difference between shame and guilt</li><li>How to approach self-forgiveness</li><li>The intersection of self-compassion and exposure practices</li><li>Paul Gilbert’s self-compassion daily practice</li><li>What to do if your mind thinks that “self-compassion is weak, it is being permissive with yourself, or that you’re letting yourself off the hook.”</li><li>How to deal compassionately with anger</li></ul><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/when-self-compassion-gets-tough-navigating-common-barriers/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>(*) Show notes and resources of this episode</strong></a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-newsletter/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>(*) Receive free weekly science-based, compassionate, and actionable skills to stop ineffective playing-it-safe</strong></a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>(*) Figure out your playing-it-safe profile in 5 minutes and identify the key thinking strategies that keep you living in your head</strong></a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://courses.thisisdoctorz.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>(*) Learn ACT skills for anxious achievers by taking Dr. Z. ACT courses</strong></a></p>","author_name":"Dr. Z. - Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D. "}