{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5eaa17597073432b7f5a651b/6463d79603ddd10011515d0f?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"90. Overcoming fear of failure","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/5eaa17597073432b7f5a651b/1589580334206-1fccc6839864a04559c0c66e8c494997.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>Drop your standards! Let go of your perfectionistic tendencies!</p><p><br></p><p>If I were paid a dollar every time I heard this message, I would have a large bank account by now.</p><p><br></p><p>When you’re pursuing a top performance – from athletic to intellectual to artistic ones – it’s fundamental that you distinguish those common principles that improve your performance and your well-being altogether.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, Brad Stulberg and I discussed research-based skills to deal with high-achieving and striving behaviors in a skillful manner and without losing yourself.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Key Takeaways</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>How to distinguish when perfectionistic actions are working for you or against you</li><li>The difference between values-based goals and ego-driven goals</li><li>How to avoid burnout in the information era</li><li>How to manage your proneness to perfectionistic actions</li><li>Day-to-day experiences of experiential avoidance</li><li>Tips to handle the fear of failure</li><li>How to figure out what is on the other side of your fears</li><li>How to practice self-compassion when handling our fears</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Show notes with time stamps</strong></p><p><br></p><p>00:31 Understanding Fear-Based Reactions</p><p>01:02 Overcoming Perfectionism</p><p>01:36 Interview with Brad Stulberg: High Achieving and Striving Behaviors</p><p>02:19 Reflecting on Your Life and Overcoming Overthinking</p><p>03:28 Living According to Your Values</p><p>04:10 Using a Values-Based Review to Live the Life You Want</p><p>04:46 Conversation with Brad Stulberg: Balancing Productivity and Wellbeing</p><p>05:43 Understanding the Double-Edged Sword of Optimization</p><p>08:44 Dealing with Fear of Failure and Regret</p><p>17:48 Navigating Ego-Driven Goals and Values-Based Goals</p><p>24:09 Overcoming Experiential Avoidance</p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/overcoming-fear-of-failure/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>(*) Show notes and resources of this episode</strong></a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-newsletter/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>(*) Receive free weekly science-based, compassionate, and actionable skills to stop ineffective playing-it-safe</strong></a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>(*) Figure out your playing-it-safe profile in 5 minutes and identify the key thinking strategies that keep you living in your head</strong></a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://courses.thisisdoctorz.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>(*) Learn ACT skills for anxious achievers by taking Dr. Z. ACT courses</strong></a></p>","author_name":"Dr. Z. - Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D. "}