{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5ac9a352ef7a4c2376786ec9/5e17b74ab0b5313933743b21?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Mid-Life Dating, Sex & Finding True Love  GUEST: Jonathon Aslay","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/5ac9a352ef7a4c2376786ec9/1578612574813-d17ac0f3f8aa348a3931ba1b5c131dbc.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>Fearful? Skeptical? Not sure you trust yourself to choose well? Unsure about trusting when you start to date again? </p><p>You'll likely have some of that when you're dating in mid-life, especially if you have left a toxic relationship? </p><p><br></p><p>You hear the term, self-love, so often these days. Do you know what it really means? What are your assumptions about it? </p><p><br></p><p>I actually don't use that term much because of the ambiguity. In today's episode, my guest, Jonothon Aslay, and I discuss this because sometimes the term causes me to roll my eyes. Really, that's true. But, I loved Jonathon's definition of self-love, and that makes the discussion all the more juicy! </p><p><br></p><p>It's awkward to know when the<strong> best time to ask about previous relationships</strong> is, right? Do you get it out of the way at the beginning, or is there a better time for that question? </p><p><br></p><p>See all the question below that I asked Jonathon. So much great information, and excellent insights, too. </p><p><br></p><p>______________________________</p><p><br></p><p><strong>&gt;&gt;&gt;&gt;&gt; AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Join my&nbsp;</strong><a href=\"https://www.optimizecircles.com/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>OptimizeCircles.com</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free &amp; low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!</strong></p><p><strong>___________________________________</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><p><strong>Answers to...</strong></p><ul><li>What inspired Jonathon Aslay to write about <strong>dating and self-love</strong>?</li><li>What is his<strong> definition of self-love</strong>?</li><li>How does <strong>mid-life dating</strong> differ from dating earlier in life?</li><li>What are the <strong>red flags in mid-life dating</strong>?</li><li>Are there <strong>questions to be avoided on first dates</strong>? </li><li>When is the<strong> best time to talk about previous relationships when dating</strong> a new person?</li><li>Why does Jonathon call venting \"empowered problem-solving?\"</li><li>What are the <strong>roadblocks women face when understanding divorced men</strong>?</li><li>What <strong>questions should women ask when going out with a divorced man</strong>?</li><li>What are the <strong>differences between men who have been divorced and men who've never married</strong>?</li></ul><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><strong>GUEST: JONATHON ASLAY</strong></p><p><br></p><p>The focus of one of <strong>America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach</strong> has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE.  </p><p><br></p><p>After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. </p><p><br></p><p>He realized that the process of<strong> dating reveals the most common emotional health issue</strong> faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. </p><p><br></p><p>Today, he is on a mission of <strong>encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves</strong> with a new book, <strong>\"What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?\"</strong>—packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices—and his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, that inspires hundreds of people daily, around the world.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>FREE GIFT FROM JONATHON:</strong></p><p><strong>Chapters from his book, What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway? </strong></p><p><a href=\"http://www.jonathonaslay.com/love/\" target=\"_blank\">http://www.jonathonaslay.com/love/</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>CONTACT INFO FOR JONATHON ASLAY</strong></p><p>Website:<a href=\"https://drvanta.com/\" target=\"_blank\">&nbsp;</a><a href=\"https://www.JonathonAslay.com\" target=\"_blank\">JonathonAslay.com</a></p><p>Podcasts:</p><p>LinkedIn:&nbsp;</p><p>Facebook:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/consciouscoupling.jonathonaslay/\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.facebook.com/consciouscoupling.jonathonaslay/</a></p><p>Instagram<a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/ABetterLifeRecovery\" target=\"_blank\">:</a>&nbsp;<a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/ForeverHomesforFosterKidsCA\" target=\"_blank\">@</a></p><p>Twitter:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/DrTerriLoveDr/\" target=\"_blank\">&nbsp;</a><a href=\"https://twitter.com/jonathonaslay\" target=\"_blank\">https://twitter.com/jonathonaslay</a></p><p>YouTube:&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p><strong>CONNECT WITH DR. 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