{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5ac9a352ef7a4c2376786ec9/5b7cbd6e7fcf6ace13c633e7?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family  GUEST: Jeff Jones","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/5ac9a352ef7a4c2376786ec9/1534901421139-fe79dd658fa8856de92722cb86095694.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p><strong>EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show</strong></p><p><strong>with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family&nbsp;</strong>G</p><p><br></p><p><strong>GUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. </strong></p><p><br></p><p>---------------------------------------------</p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame </strong></p><p><br></p><p>Have you ever <strong>felt shame</strong>? <strong>Been shamed</strong>? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!</p><p><br></p><p>You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?</p><p><br></p><p>Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was \"invented\" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling \"less than,\" wrong, not good enough.</p><p><br></p><p>Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!</p><p><br></p><p>Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Toxic shame,</strong> though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.</p><p><br></p><p>In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for <strong>dumping guilt</strong> and <strong>stopping shame</strong>, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><strong>GUEST:&nbsp;Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional </strong></p><p><br></p><p>Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.</p><p><br></p><p>After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of <strong>empowering families</strong> to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Why timing is such a big issue in the <strong>recovery process</strong></li><li>Why a \"<strong>recovery message</strong>\" is important to create</li><li>Understanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recovery</li><li>The importance of knowing the <strong>natural recovery process</strong></li><li>How to be aware of <strong>warning signs of addiction</strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Listen to understand why Jeff says, \"I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all.\"</p><p><br></p><p>This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and&nbsp;<strong>different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.</strong></p><p><br></p><p>The&nbsp;<strong>Relationship Help&nbsp;</strong>Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><strong>HIS FREE GIFT</strong>:<strong> Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's Recovery</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>CONNECT WITH JEFF JONES</strong></p><p>Website:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://TheFamilyRecoverySolution.com\" target=\"_blank\">TheFamilyRecoverySolution.com</a></p><p>Twitter:&nbsp;</p><p>LinkedIn:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/\" target=\"_blank\">Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/</a></p><p>Facebook:<a href=\"https://facebook.com/prosperityafterdivorce\" target=\"_blank\">&nbsp;</a><a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/jeff.jones.792740\" target=\"_blank\">Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:</strong></p><p>Website:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/\" target=\"_blank\">ForRelationshipHelp.com</a></p><p>Facebook:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor\" target=\"_blank\">RelationshipHelpDoctor</a></p><p>Twitter:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://app.pippa.io/shows/5ac9a352ef7a4c2376786ec9/episodes/Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler\" target=\"_blank\">Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler</a></p><p>LinkedIn:&nbsp;<a href=\"https://linkedin.com/in/RhobertaShaler\" target=\"_blank\">LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler</a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"http://www.passiveaggressivechecklist.com/\" target=\"_blank\">Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist</a></p><p><a href=\"http://www.relationshipchecklist.com/\" target=\"_blank\">Free Relationship Checklist</a></p><p>Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter,&nbsp;<a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe\" target=\"_blank\">Tips for Relationships</a></p><p><br></p><p>If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your f<a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/join\" target=\"_blank\">irst one-hour session for only $97</a>.</p><p><br></p><p>#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople&nbsp;#intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess</p>","author_name":"Rhoberta Shaler, PhD"}