{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5ac99d250c3456504c56d1b8/5c573ad955fd17ed4b629d58?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Why Too Few Boundaries Allow Too Much Drama ","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/5ac99d250c3456504c56d1b8/1549220524413-459abf3071656da62b589a60007f5bb6.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p><strong>Constant drama in one of your relationships? </strong></p><p><strong>Are you frustrated and resentful, but unsure how to change things? </strong></p><p><strong>Do you fool yourself by making excuses for the other person's poor, damaging, or degrading behaviors? </strong></p><p><br></p><p>No more, OK? You will feel SO much better when you are confident that you can:</p><ul><li><strong>set boundaries</strong></li><li><strong>express your boundaries</strong></li><li><strong>maintain your boundaries</strong></li><li>set consequences for <strong>trampled boundaries</strong></li><li><strong>follow-through on the consequences</strong></li></ul><p>Right?</p><p>Of course.</p><p><br></p><p>If you had a #Hijackal parent, you are used to having your boundaries trampled. You likely wonder if you know anything different! That's because all Hijackals® believe that things should be their way or the highway. How dare you have a point of view, or a desire for something different than they want you to have!</p><p><br></p><p>And, how about <strong>name-calling</strong>? NO! That's not OK at all.</p><p><br></p><p>How do you stop it? In today's episode I use <strong>stopping name-calling</strong> as an example to take you through the <strong>steps to setting boundaries</strong>, through to following through on the consequences of <strong>trespassing a personal boundary</strong>.</p><p><br></p><p>Follow these steps, and you'll soon be more comfortable with <strong>creating boundaries</strong>.</p><p>What's the pay-off? Less drama over time! Whoo- hoo!</p><p><br></p><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><ul><li>Why <strong>constant drama</strong> may feel comfortably uncomfortable to you</li><li>Why you may be hoping too much that the person really loves you</li><li>Steps to setting and <strong>express clear boundaries</strong></li><li>When you need to <strong>set consequences</strong></li><li><strong>Empowering yourself to be assertive</strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p>I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Let's talk soon. I can help</strong>.&nbsp;<a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/free-consult\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE</a>&nbsp;for only $97.</p><p><br></p><p>I hope this&nbsp;empowers you to make positive changes NOW.</p><p><br></p><p>Talk soon.</p><p>Rhoberta</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,</strong></p><p><strong>The Relationship Help Doctor</strong></p><p><a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">ForRelationshipHelp.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>P.S. 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