{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5ac99d250c3456504c56d1b8/5c4cc1daa87db9495f97252f?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Real Grown-Ups Don't Fight Because They Know These Three Things","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/5ac99d250c3456504c56d1b8/1548534173059-f467558c6f2fcde75800e389675e543c.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p><strong>Emotional grown-ups don't fight. Kids and needy adults fight. </strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>You don't want to be one of those, so a few essential tips for you in today's episode. </strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Fighting is what kids do.</strong> They do it because they are trying to <strong>establish boundaries</strong>, power, and a sense of who they are. They don't know yet. Their skills are almost non-existent, except for what they have seen the adult in their lives do. Were those good models? Hmmmm....</p><p><br></p><p>You don't want to fight, right? So, today, I'm suggesting you do these three big things to stay out of the fray.</p><p><br></p><p>You know fighting never works. You might feel like to \"really told him off,\" or, \"I told it like it is,\" but did it really accomplish anything?</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Fighting with a #Hijackal is an absurdity, really</strong>. You can't get anywhere, and you don't feel better in the end. So, don't do it!</p><p><br></p><p>Sure, for a few minutes, you feel like you got <strong>rid of a bunch of pent-up anger</strong>, and you needed to get a whole lot off your chest. BUT, what is the result? Did anything really change, especially did anything change for the better? Not likely.</p><p><br></p><p>You need to be very clear within yourself about who you want to be and how you want to express yourself. <strong>Communicating clearly will empower you,</strong> I promise.So, these three things I talk about in today's episode are the very best starting places. Promise!</p><p><br></p><p>You matter! You deserve to be emotionally safe, so be sure you're the emotionally mature one, OK?</p><p><br></p><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Why fighting <strong>lacks emotional maturity</strong>. Not a surprise, really, right?</li><li>Why #Hijackals enjoy the fight</li><li>Three things you need to work out for yourself that will <strong>help you be assertive</strong></li><li><strong>How to improve your self-confidence</strong> when things need to be said</li><li>Why you cannot get anywhere with a #Hijackal by fighting</li></ul><p><br></p><p>I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Let's talk soon. I can help</strong>.&nbsp;<a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/free-consult\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE</a>&nbsp;for only $97.</p><p><br></p><p>I hope this&nbsp;empowers you to make positive changes NOW.</p><p><br></p><p>Talk soon.</p><p>Rhoberta</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,</strong></p><p><strong>The Relationship Help Doctor</strong></p><p><a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">ForRelationshipHelp.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>P.S. 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