{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5ac99d250c3456504c56d1b8/5c290fb4411eddea6a9aefa0?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"How to Spot a Hijackal. Crazy-Making Things Narcissists Do","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/5ac99d250c3456504c56d1b8/1546194779834-d3aad7016bcf70c9659ae5271d2eb59f.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p><strong>Is your relationship one-sided? </strong></p><p><strong>Are you wondering if it's you? </strong></p><p><strong>Does your partner have to \"win\" always? </strong></p><p><strong>Is everything your fault? </strong></p><p><br></p><p>You're already confused, just the way a Hijackal® wants you to be. A Hijackal is a person who behaves in ways that are common to people considered to have <strong>narcissistic</strong>, <strong>borderline</strong>, <strong>histrionic</strong>, or <strong>antisocial </strong>behavior patterns. I created the term, <strong>Hijackals</strong>, so that you would have a way of talking about the behaviors without trying to make a diagnosis. You simply need to know the signs so that you clearly know what's really going on in your relationship.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Hijackals love to reel you in with what is called \"love-bombing.\" </strong>They have the ability to seem to be all that you ever wanted, your perfect partner, your soulmate. Then, once you've committed to them--and, oh, they're fast to want you to move in, marry, get pregnant--so that they can give up their false front and go back to being their real selves. Nasty, right?</p><p><br></p><p>For today's episode, I'm reading my <a href=\"https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/help-handling-hijackals-spot-signup/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, which you can download HERE. </a></p><p><br></p><p>You know if you're with a toxic, difficult person. Believing it is another matter. Most good people actually hope and believe that they can be more loving, kind, compassionate, patient, forgiving, compromising, ______, and then the HIjackal will change. S/he will change because they will finally believe they are loved.</p><p><br></p><p>NO! It doesn't work that way. Hijackals simply always want more...until you are worn down, torn down, and put down and there is nothing left of you, your <strong>self-esteem</strong>, or <strong>self-confidence</strong>.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>LISTEN TO THIS OVER AND OVER AND LET IT SINK WAY IN! </strong> It could be that you had a HIjackal parent, and all this bad behavior on the part of a current partner or ex seemed somehow normal. NO! It isn't. HINT: Listen again if you need to.</p><p><br></p><p>I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.</p><p><br></p><p>Let's talk soon. I can help.&nbsp;<a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/free-consult\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE</a>&nbsp;for only $97.</p><p><br></p><p>I hope this&nbsp;<strong>empowers you to make positive changes NOW.</strong></p><p><br></p><p>Talk soon.</p><p>Rhoberta</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,</strong></p><p><strong>The Relationship Help Doctor</strong></p><p><a href=\"https://forrelationshiphelp.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">ForRelationshipHelp.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>P.S. 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