{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/5a733218a0baaf5347768d0f/5c8383fbb54b48846f6d51aa?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"46: Marla Mattenson and Julian Colker - Technology and its role in relationships","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/5a733218a0baaf5347768d0f/1552122817603-271424a0f090f0aca9c2ac63bc871944.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>On Episode 46, Marla Mattenson returns with her partner Julian Colker who work together to coach couples in their relationships including how to use technology mindfully.</p><p><br></p><p>Some of the questions I ask:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>How to deal with devices and how they can potentially create rough spots when it comes to our intimate relationships [2.28]</li><li>Why a pre-planned advance agreements between a couple is important to set each other up for success [5:07]</li><li>How technology can be used to amplify the positive in your relationship [7:55]</li><li>Ways that technology can make things simple for you and your partner[13:29]</li><li>How much is too much communication via text message? [18:48]</li><li>What are some suggestions for those who feel they can’t commit to a simple or disciplined technology use plan? [24:13]</li><li>Upcoming in person workshop Marla and Julian have about touch [28:38]</li></ul><p><br></p><p>What you’ll learn:</p><ul><li>Technology is a tool which can add value to your relationship and also take away from it [2:48]</li><li>Pre planned advance agreements about technology between yourself and your partner [3:49]</li><li>Close the gap of misinterpretation that can potentially happen when communicating through devices [5:39]</li><li>Humans are now getting Dopamine and Serotonin hits which cause us to bond with our technology instead of bonding with our partner or other humans [7:30]</li><li>How to use technology in a way to connect deeper with your partner’s love language [8:40]</li><li>Ways to set intention about wanting to grow with your partner [10:32]</li><li>How sharing your calendar with your partner so they are aware of the times you are busy and free so they can plan things around your schedule [11:31]</li><li>Use technology to keep track of things your partner likes on the phone [12:53]</li><li>Starting your morning routine to engage a passionate relationship that doesn’t prioritise a technology first [14:48]</li><li>Setting boundaries around technology use in your family [15:26]</li><li>How to creatively communicate using technology [17:16]</li><li>Ways to have an intentional digital detox [21:45]</li><li>Have the belief that it’s possible to be disconnected from your phone [24:48]</li><li>Ways to apply technology in a way to uplift and advance your life and relationship [25:30]</li><li>What’s a thought each of you would leave about technology in relationships? [31:21]</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources:</strong></p><p><em>Apps:</em> Love Nudge - talks about the 5 love languages you can sign up with your partner</p><p>Marla Matteson &amp; Julian Colker’s workshop:</p>","author_name":"Robert Plotkin"}