How do you know when you’re abandoning yourself? And why do so many of us stay in situations that slowly erode our sense of self?
In this episode, I’m joined by Sandra Silverman, an author who shares her journey of rebuilding her life after leaving a 27-year toxic relationship.
We talk about the cycle of toxic relationships, including gaslighting, love bombing, and self-blame, the role of past trauma in shaping our relationship patterns, and why learning to feel safe within yourself is essential before you can feel safe with someone else.
Sandra also shares what it takes to rebuild your sense of self after years of emotional pain, and why healing is a process that requires you to face, rather than avoid, your emotions.
This episode is about recognising where you may be abandoning yourself, and how choosing yourself can change everything.
Sandra Silverman is an author and podcast host who shares her experiences with toxic relationships, personal transformation, and self-worth. After leaving a 27-year relationship, she now helps others recognise unhealthy patterns and rebuild their lives from the inside out.
Timestamps:
(00:00) Introduction
(01:24) Procedures And Validation
(02:53) Boundaries And Escalation
(03:39) Gaslighting Narcissist Cycle
(06:04) Why She Stayed for 27 Years
(07:20) Choosing Divorce And Books
(10:04) Healing Takes Time
(11:10) Vacation Exit And Divorce
(12:36) Acceptance And Empathy
(14:41) Past Trauma And Blame
(18:12) Safety In Relationships
(19:04) Feeling Safe Alone
(19:38) Stop Chasing Quick Fixes
(21:25) Sober Through The Pain
(22:22) Rebound To Roster
(24:05) Solo Reset And Coaching
(25:08) Daily Self Care Tools
(26:31) Cosmetic Work With Intention
(27:44) Social Media Beauty Pressure
(30:17) Advice For Young Women
(32:00) Purpose Through Books And Show
(33:55) Whats Next
(35:14) Advice To 18 Year Old Self
(35:53) Final Thanks
Connect with Nick:
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Website: http://nickbracks.com
Email: contact@nickbracks.com
Connect with Sandra:
Website: https://www.sandralenasilverman.com/
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