{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/4d8f2ca2-d931-4be1-96d2-ce984ea9e0ff/69af9ae3a2ae95013b30422a?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"#266: Why You Feel Shame (Evolutionary Psychologist Explains) - Debra Lieberman","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/6113e96b8b4903612016f7e9/1773116002540-94035d84-9a27-4b58-a665-bcf98605940b.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>Why do we feel shame? Why does guilt hit so deeply? And why do some people seem to carry these emotions far more intensely than others?</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Debra Lieberman — evolutionary psychologist, professor at the University of Miami, and Editor-in-Chief of Evolution and Human Behavior — to explore why humans evolved to feel shame and guilt, and what these emotions are actually trying to do.</p><p><br></p><p>We talk about the evolutionary purpose of shame, the difference between shame and guilt, why high-functioning people can be especially prone to self-criticism, how social media hijacks our need for social value, and why learning to value yourself changes everything.</p><p><br></p><p>This episode will help you change your life by changing how you deal with shame.</p><p><br></p><p>Dr. Debra Lieberman is an evolutionary psychologist whose research explores how evolution shaped the social mind, including emotions like shame, guilt, disgust, morality, kinship, sexuality, and cooperation.</p><p><br></p><p>Timestamps:</p><p><br></p><p>(00:00) Introduction</p><p> (00:23) Meet Dr Deborah Lieberman</p><p> (01:05) Evolutionary Software Of Emotions</p><p> (02:42) Social Value And Gratitude</p><p> (05:55) Why Shame Shows Up</p><p> (08:45) Shame Versus Anger Leverage</p><p> (10:35) Locus Of Control Trap</p><p> (15:02) Social Media Hijacks Validation</p><p> (19:50) Using Social Media With Boundaries</p><p> (22:51) Stoicism Purpose In Struggle</p><p> (26:43) Mentorship Missing In Modern Life</p><p> (29:33) Finding Your Foxhole Friends</p><p> (31:58) Toxic Friendships And Loss Aversion</p><p> (33:35) Tribe Size Dating Math</p><p> (34:45) Why Breakups Hurt</p><p> (37:03) Fear And Relationship Pressure</p><p> (38:46) Needy Mindset To Self Worth</p><p> (41:43) Building Self Value Skills</p><p> (43:42) Shame Versus Guilt</p><p> (45:57) Reimagining Human Education</p><p> (50:55) Critical Thinking In AI Age</p><p> (55:08) Do We Need Relationships</p><p> (59:57) Life Stages And Meaning</p><p> (01:01:02) Advice Happiness And Next Steps</p><p> (01:04:09) Resources And Final Wrap</p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Nick:</p><p><br></p><p>Instagram:<a href=\"https://instagram.com/nickbracks\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://instagram.com/nickbracks</a></p><p>Website: <a href=\"http://nickbracks.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">http://nickbracks.com</a></p><p>Email: contact@nickbracks.com</p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Debra:</p><p><br></p><p>Website: <a href=\"https://open.acast.com/networks/610bca98fbf8e200123fdaa4/shows/6113e96b8b4903612016f7e9/episodes/www.deblieberman.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">www.deblieberman.com</a></p><p>Articles: <a href=\"https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=OhbXo2kAAAAJ&amp;hl=en\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=OhbXo2kAAAAJ&amp;hl=en</a></p>","author_name":"Nick Bracks"}