ADHD Chatter

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) plagues many people with RSD. Dr Samantha Hiew PhD, founder of ADHD Girls and a neurodiversity and ADHD expert, explains where RSD comes from and how you can manage it effectively.

Dr James Kustow is a leading London-based Consultant Psychiatrist and a trained integrative psychotherapist, working in one of the few specialist NHS Adult ADHD services in the capital. Chapters:00:00 Trailer01:09 A message from our sponsor: Tiimo03:53 ADHD item reveal04:21 Is there a displacement of energy in someone with ADHD in which they use energy in places that Neurotypical people might not and is there a knock on effect onto their physical health because of this?07:02 How have you seen undiagnosed ADHD impact a person's mental health and then their physical health?08:36 How to unmask after an ADHD diagnosis 13:06 What is the solution for RSD18:54 How to stop being a people pleaser 20:52 Is there a theme you've noticed with regards to the time in a person's life when they might come to you for an ADHD diagnosis and why would that be?29:03 Why is ADHD so objectively hard to prove to a cynic who might not think it's a legitimate diagnosis?32:00 What would you say to someone who says ADHD doesn't exist and isn't a legitimate diagnosis?33:44 What are the 3 biggest ADHD myths that you'd like to debunk if you could?34:58 Do you notice with patients that you diagnose a change in their state of mental health after they've been given a reason for their behaviour?38:37 ADHD item explanation (night owl)43:29 The ADHD agony aunt (Washing machine of woes)49:46 How do I know if I've got Executive Dysfunction, or if I'm just lazy AND how can I explain this to my partner who might just think I'm making excuses?52:50 How to THRIVE with ADHD56:36 Can you explain exactly what emotional dysregulation is and if it might vary from sex to sex?01:03:15 Can a person hack their ADHD to become more productive?01:08:38 A letter from the previous guest (3 rules to live by)01:10:03 Behind the scenes clips + signing the ‘out of the box’ canvasBuy James's book 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Thrive-Adult-ADHD-Productivity/dp/1785044524Visit The Grove Practice 👉 https://www.thegrovepractice.com/profle/dr-james-kustow/Get started with Tiimo for free on mobile or web by following this link:https://tiimo.onelink.me/w6CP/AlexPartridgeProducer: Timon Woodward

Dr Alex George, the UK's mental health ambassador, shares his 3 tips to thrive with ADHD

Amy is best known as the breakout star from BBC’s groundbreaking queer reality show I Kissed a Girl. Today, she brutally opens up about her late ADHD diagnosis, and shares the many realisations she's had along the way.Chapters:00:00 Trailer01:01 A message from our sponsor: Tiimo03:29 ADHD item reveal03:53 So, a question that might have some layered answers, but, when was your first memory of feeling different?06:22 Did your ADHD diagnosis mean a lot to you?09:15 Is there a high proportion of neurodivergence in the gay community from your experience?10:05 And did I read somewhere that both of your sisters are gay? Are they both also neurodivergent too?10:18 What was your parent's response to firstly the collective Neurodivergence?11:58 How do you think you would have coped through your various iterations of learning that you're "different" without the support of your siblings?13:56 What is the importance to you of surrounding yourself with your “tribe"14:57 Have you ever been told you're "too much" for someone, either as a friend, or as a partner, or in the dating world?16:14 ADHD struggles17:34 How do you personally deal with heartbreak?18:45 And how would you describe real love from your own personal emotionally complex ADHD mind's experience?20:48 ADHD item explanation21:39 The ADHD agony aunt segment (The washing machine of woes)24:48 What led you to become part of the Reality TV show "I Kissed A Girl" and why did you choose to do it?26:57 I don't know how the edit the show, but I imagine things are changed and fabrciated a bit to fulfill a certain narrative. For someone with ADHD and maybe RSD, that's a huge risk to take.28:12 How has the social media response been and has it impacted you or your family either negatively or positively? 32:09 How does RSD manifest in your and is it something you've had to struggle through your whole life?33:03 Having spoken to you now, I'd say you're the image of confidence. What insecurities might you have that you think you've done such a great job in masking that nobody would ever guess you think them about yourself?34:40 The feeling of not fitting in a box must be something quite familiar to you now! What advice would you give to someone who doesn't feel like they are fitting in when they are desperate to?35:36 What is it about you and your character that has been able to navigate through so many "against the grain" moments in your life and come out the other side so confident and happy?36:19 What is your life after the show going to be like in terms of the parts you can control (i.e what are you going to do with your new found stardom) and the parts you can't control (i.e being known for a Reality TV show)? 37:45 What is it about being ADHD that you'd miss hugely if you were to suddenly become Neurotypical overnight?38:36 A letter from the previous guest39:40 Behind the scenes footage, posting the letter & signing the ‘out of the box’ canvasFind Amy on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/amy_spalding/?hl=enGet started with Tiimo for free on mobile or web by following this link:https://tiimo.onelink.me/w6CP/AlexPartridgeProducer: Timon Woodward

Legendary comedian, Sara Pascoe & comedian husband, Steen Raskopoulos, share how ADHD shows up in their marriage and how they cope.

Martine McCutcheon is an actress, best known for her roles in Eastenders & Love Actually, but today she opens up about her late ADHD diagnosis.Chapters:00:00 Trailer 01:20 A message from our sponsor: Tiimo04:39 The ADHD item reveal05:13 A simple question to start, but an important one, when was your first memory of feeling different?08:26 Your upbringing in Hackney was tumultuous to say the least. Do you think, from memory, your childhood is linked to your ADHD in any way?09:27 Why do you think you were diagnosed so late in your life?21:07 You started performing very early in your life. How was it as a child to be a performer and how did that detract from your academia?28:15 Many viewers of the podcast will of course recognise you from Eastenders as the iconic character Tiffany. 30:34 What is the pressure like being in the UKs most watched Soap Opera for such a long run?34:00 It’s quite rare for an actor to be broadcast so consistently to a whole nation and be known so well for that role and it must be very surreal, how did your RSD deal with this particular strain of fame and interactions with the public & press?37:31 Do you find yourself having been drawn to other neurodivergent minds either personally or professionally? 43:16 Does ADHD affect your ability to learn acting lines44:46 A huge thing we speak about often on the podcast is imposter syndrome. Have you ever experienced this and did you experience this leaping from a Soap Opera into a Hollywood movie?49:53 Now you've been diagnosed with ADHD, if you could sit down and have a word with a younger version of Martine just at the moment she's been told she'll be on the country's most beloved Soap Opera, what would you say to her?  56:41 A message from our sponsor: Stasis 58:09 Have you grown to love yourself, feel comfortable in your own skin and everything that entails and did that journey start pre-diagnosis? Or with the diagnosis?01:05:44 How does your anxiety manifest itself and has this been a struggle in your past?01:14:27 Reflecting on My Fair Lady01:20:31 ADHD item explanation 01:22:02 The Washing Machine of Woes01:24:16 You’ve been away from the public eye for a while, has that been good for you?01:27:56 In hindsight, do a lot of your behaviours make sense to you now that you have an ADHD diagnosis and if so, which ones? 01:29:50 How would your children describe your ADHD and various neurodivergent eccentricities?01:31:37 Why was it important to come on here and discuss it today?01:33:49 If you could sit down and have one conversation with one person from your past, with the fresh perspective of being diagnosed with ADHD, who would it be with and why?01:38:34 Letter from previous guest (rules to live by)01:40:00 Behind the scenes clip & signing the ‘out of the box’ canvasGet started with Tiimo for free on mobile or web by following this link:https://tiimo.onelink.me/w6CP/AlexPartridgeDo you want to feel the benefits of Stasis? Use code ADHDCHATTER for 20% off your first order. Discount automatically applied at checkout: https://takestasis.com/discount/ADHDCHATTER?utm_source=partner&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=adhdchatter2409&utm_id=adhdchatterValid for US customers onlyProducer: Timon Woodward

Dan Harris and his non-speaking son, The Joshie Man, share their inspiring journey, full of heart warming insight. Dan is the founder of the charity, Neurodiversity in Business, advocating for the rights of neurodivergent folk to access neuroinclusive workplaces. You can find out more details at www.neurodiversity.org. Chapters:00:42 A message from our sponsor: Tiimo02:46 Start of interview 03:27 I quite often ask this question at the end but I think it would be a good one to start with:04:02 Could you explain in detail the general spectrum of ASD, where you place on it and then where Joshy would be placed on it?05:44 You hear quite regularly things like "oh my friend, he/she is a bit on the spectrum", it seems in some way, we are all on the spectrum. That's why it's a spectrum and not binary. Is this true? Do we all have a bit of an -ism? 07:12 You’ve been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism, when was your first memory of feeling different?10:08 Do you think you could describe as accurately as best you can what Joshy's experience of the world is?12:12 How does Joshy show and process his emotions and feelings?13:11 What is the general communication like between yourself and Joshy and how has that evolved over time14:00 Did it take time to come to terms with Joshy's diagnosis and if so, what were the stages of processing like for you?17:22 How have you coped as a father?19:24 ADHD Item21:31 Were there any tell-tale signs of Joshy's condition very early in his life and if so, how early?22:49 A message from our sponsor: Stasis 24:16 How has the world changed with regards to how it views autism since your personal diagnosis? 27:46 Is there a chasm that needs to be addressed with regards to Joshy's experience of the world and how people with his condition are viewed by authorities?32:21 How would you like the world to change over the next 10 years with regards to ADHD and Autism?34:14 What Autism associated stigma would you most like to debunk?36:13 What nonverbal autistic stigma would you most like to debunk?40:06 Washing machine of woes Dan is fighting for Communication Boards to be installed globally to help non-speaking people access their communities: https://neurodiversityinbusiness.org/communicationboards/Find Dan on LinkedIn 👉 https://www.linkedin.com/in/danjharris/Get started with Tiimo for free on mobile or web by following this link:https://tiimo.onelink.me/w6CP/AlexPartridgeDo you want to feel the benefits of Stasis? Use code ADHDCHATTER for 20% off your first order. Discount automatically applied at checkout: https://takestasis.com/discount/ADHDCHATTER?utm_source=partner&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=adhdchatter2409&utm_id=adhdchatterValid for US customers onlyProducer: Timon Woodward

Jordan Stephens is best known for being one half of Rizzle Kicks. Today he dissects his ADHD diagnosis and shares the many life-changing lessons he’s learnt. Topics:00:00 Trailer01:20 A message from our sponsor: Timoo04:36 ADHD item reveal 05:11 What was your first memory of feeling different?07:14 You were diagnosed twice with ADHD, is that right?10:36 What was your first memory of being made to feel different by somebody else?Do you have any visual analogies that best demonstrate how ADHD manifests in you?14:32 You’re a bit of a polymath. A musician, author, actor, mental health activist, do you think your ADHD stood you in good stead with your varied career paths?19:34 What do you think divided you - who has clearly been able to use his brain and creative capacity to further your career - to those who only experience the negatives of ADHD?24:11 Drugs and alcohol 25:53 So with great success always comes great criticism. Managing so many different careers, do you suffer RSD across those pursuits?30:11 What do you think other people's experience of working with you is?36:56 A message from our sponsor: Stasis38:24 ADHD item segment 43:19 The Washing Machine of Woes (ADHD Agony Aunt segment)48:18 You’ve written a book about heartbreak which makes me wonder, how do you experience Love and is it an intense experience perpetuated by your ADHD?57:29 You've spoken before about body dysmorphia, is that something you feel comfortable talking about? 01:05:56 Why was it important for you to come on this podcast and talk about ADHD?01:07:43 A letter from the previous guest 01:09:21 BTS footage + posting the letter + Signing the canvas Get started with Tiimo for free on mobile or web by following this link:https://tiimo.onelink.me/w6CP/AlexPartridgeDo you want to feel the benefits of Stasis? Use code ADHDCHATTER for 20% off your first order. Discount automatically applied at checkout: https://takestasis.com/discount/ADHDCHATTER?utm_source=partner&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=adhdchatter2409&utm_id=adhdchatterValid for US customers onlyProducer: Timon Woodward

Stacey Duguid has worked for brands including Giorgio Armani, Prada and ELLE, but today she opens up about her late ADHD diagnosis, and the vital lessons she's learnt along the way.Chapters:00:00 Trailer01:56 ADHD Item reveal02:49 An opening tradition on this podcast: What is your earliest memory of feeling different?06:41 What’s your earliest memory of being told that you're different by someone else?08:48 How did feeling different manifest itself in your earlier years as a child and then as a teenager?13:42 Why do you think it took so long for you to be diagnosed with ADHD?21:25 What was your family's response to your diagnosis?22:45 Is it hard to explain ADHD to other people, do you find people take it seriously as a diagnosis?25:47 After you were diagnosed did you feel like you presented yourself in a different way socially, professional or in your relationships? Did you approach people with a renewed sense of confidence?30:56 Do you think you have any autistic traits?35:29 have you struggled with addiction and if so, just how bad did it get and how have you overcome this?40:34 What was (and is) dating like for you as someone with ADHD?47:16 Do you find what you're looking for in a partner has changed pre and post ADHD diagnosis?51:07 Your ADHD item (red wine)54:07 How did you meet your ex-husband?55:13 You were married for 10 years? And this was pre-diagnosis...what was managing a committed relationship like with ADHD and no diagnosis?58:26 Is ADHD your friend or your enemy?01:00:57 How did ADHD play its part in your marriage failing?01:03:56 What does divorce do to one's self-esteem taking into consideration an ADHDer's RSD?01:10:23 How have your ADHD traits played a part in your incredible success within your respective careers?01:17:27 Why was it important for you to come on this podcast?01:22:14 The Washing Machine of Woes01:24:38 Letter from previous guestFollow Stacey on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/staceyduguid/?hl=enBuy Stacey's book 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pursuit-Happiness-Mating-Marriage-Motherhood/dp/0349435197/Producer: Timon Woodward