ADHD Chatter

Stacey Duguid has worked for brands including Giorgio Armani, Prada and ELLE, but today she opens up about her late ADHD diagnosis, and the vital lessons she's learnt along the way.Chapters:00:00 Trailer01:56 ADHD Item reveal02:49 An opening tradition on this podcast: What is your earliest memory of feeling different?06:41 What’s your earliest memory of being told that you're different by someone else?08:48 How did feeling different manifest itself in your earlier years as a child and then as a teenager?13:42 Why do you think it took so long for you to be diagnosed with ADHD?21:25 What was your family's response to your diagnosis?22:45 Is it hard to explain ADHD to other people, do you find people take it seriously as a diagnosis?25:47 After you were diagnosed did you feel like you presented yourself in a different way socially, professional or in your relationships? Did you approach people with a renewed sense of confidence?30:56 Do you think you have any autistic traits?35:29 have you struggled with addiction and if so, just how bad did it get and how have you overcome this?40:34 What was (and is) dating like for you as someone with ADHD?47:16 Do you find what you're looking for in a partner has changed pre and post ADHD diagnosis?51:07 Your ADHD item (red wine)54:07 How did you meet your ex-husband?55:13 You were married for 10 years? And this was pre-diagnosis...what was managing a committed relationship like with ADHD and no diagnosis?58:26 Is ADHD your friend or your enemy?01:00:57 How did ADHD play its part in your marriage failing?01:03:56 What does divorce do to one's self-esteem taking into consideration an ADHDer's RSD?01:10:23 How have your ADHD traits played a part in your incredible success within your respective careers?01:17:27 Why was it important for you to come on this podcast?01:22:14 The Washing Machine of Woes01:24:38 Letter from previous guestFollow Stacey on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/staceyduguid/?hl=enBuy Stacey's book 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pursuit-Happiness-Mating-Marriage-Motherhood/dp/0349435197/Producer: Timon Woodward

Kate Spicer shares her important post ADHD diagnosis realisations. Kate is a lifestyle journalist who has written for Vogue, the Sunday Times, The Times, the Daily Mail and the Evening Standard.Read Kate's Substack 👉 https://katespicer.substack.com/archive

Ellie Middleton is an activist, speaker and writer committed to breaking taboos and empowering neurodivergent people to thrive in and out of the workplace. Ellie's story is tragically relatable, but also full of hope, insight and wisdom. 00:00 Trailer03:04 Shall we start by explaining in brief your diagnoses and where they came throughout your life?07:52 What were the various iterations of masking throughout your childhood?10:51 What are the hidden costs of masking16:06 When was the last time you felt truly 100% unmasked and this made you feel uncomfortable to feel like you're being yourself?23:59 When was the last time you felt truly 100% unmasked and this made you feel incredibly liberated and accepted?27:12 From your experience, what toll does the feeling of being misunderstood take on a person at the time it's happening, and in hindsight what toll do you think it can play on a person when they reach adulthood?31:14 We’ve had a few guests on with AuDHD and one of the most illustrative of analogies is "it's like 2 siblings dragging each other across the room by their hair". How would you describe these two sectors of the brain colliding on a day-to-day basis?35:46 Last time you were on you described a sort of 6 month pendulum swing of depression that would then swing to optimism and ambition. You haven't been on here for around a year, so I was just wondering if this has cropped up again in your life and how?39:48 ADHD item42:24 The washing machine of woes 48:19 Does having ADHD and Autism make you more tolerant of other people who exhibit what might be frustrating symptoms of ADHD and Autism in your personal or professional life?51:04 You’ve built a fantastic community online lending support to neurodivergents, from those who have reached out, do you see any common themes in the turmoils of those who are feeling lost?53:23 Have you made any steps over the last year to manage your R.S.D and has it cropped up in your life since you were last on?58:23 For someone who has said they take things literally and can maybe be more blunt than people are used to, this must cause confusions in conversations and friendships, how does your RSD deal with these confusions?01:04:07 Why are boundaries important to a person?01:11:16 At the beginning of your Ted Talk, you listed contradictions of social dynamics that you had trouble balancing. Could you mention a couple of them now?01:13:18 You then go on to say other neurotypical people just seemed to have a metaphorical rulebook which helped them understand these things that you couldn't get to grips with, did this lead to resentment of being different? Having to work so hard to understand something others know intrinsically?01:17:01 A letter from the previous guest Buy Ellie's book 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-You-Goodbye-Should-Would/dp/0241710375Follow Ellie on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/elliemidds/?hl=enThis episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

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Parul Singh opens up about her late ADHD & autism diagnosis. It’s insightful, hilarious and very relatable. Thank you Parul for sharing your incredible story with us.00:00 Trailer02:48 When was your first memory of feeling like you might have ADHD?11:45 And since you were last on, you were diagnosed with Autism too, so the second part of the question. When was your first memory of feeling like you have autistic traits? 20:36 How do you find Autism manifests itself in your social and professional life? 24:16 We had Jay Beech on the show who also has AuDHD and he said that the ADHD brain and the Autism brain are like 2 siblings pulling each other by the hair and dragging each other across the room, is this true for you?25:53 Has this more recent diagnosis made a lot of sense of previous struggles you've had in the past?30:55 Since your diagnosis, have you found your tribe?33:25 Has your diagnosis made sense to those closest to you?36:26 How do you communicate the everyday struggles of being AuDHD to those around you, those people by which your relationship relies heavily on your strength to communicate things to them. i.e friends, family and partner? 44:47 ‘Pebbling’ explained 46:08 In general, do you find it hard to draw out empathy from a person who has a brain that just thinks in a totally different way?50:16 What part does "Stockholm Syndrome" play in this? And can you briefly explain what Stockholm syndrome is?53:00 How much of your AuDHD do you think might be caused by complex PTSD?56:46 The ADHD Item segment 01:00:19 The ADHD Agony Aunt segment (Washing Machine of Woes)01:02:31 What is the difference between a shutdown and a meltdown? And why might one occur over the other?01:11:35 How have you learnt to harness both your ADHD and Autism to become a successful individual? 01:13:32 Does your ADHD ever mask your Autism or vice versa?01:14:28 What is your relationship with alcohol like at the moment and how has that journey been over the years? 01:16:10 The Alien scenario01:18:41 Most impulsive thing 01:21:01 Signing the ‘thinks outside the box’ canvas Find Parul on Linkedin 👉 https://www.linkedin.com/in/parul-parallel-minds/This episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

Alex chats to Rich & Rox (ADHD Love) about Rich's autism suspicions, arguments and RSD.

Alex chats with leading psychologist, Dr Mark Rackley.Expect to learn the signs you're dating a narcissist, the similarities between ADHD and narcissism, and so much more.Topics:00:00 Trailer02:28 A broad question and not yet ADHD specific, but, what is a narcissist and is there a difference between a narcissist and someone with NPD?06:48 Why do you think narcissism is such a big topic in the world at the moment?08:27 Is genuine Narcissism or NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder for audience members) common and if so, why do you think that is?10:10 What does a narcissist need to "survive" and what is it they’re looking for in life (and what are they looking for from people around them)?14:20 How does a narcissist prey on someone and what sort of people are they looking to exploit?16:30 Is covert narcissism different to the more mainstream narcissism we hear about and why is it particularly dangerous?18:21 Are narcissists afraid of being alone and what - in general terms - do you think a narcissist thinks of when they are left alone?20:00 What might the general timeline be for someone dating a narcissist and that dating turning into a serious relationship i.e how might narcissism show itself gradually in a romantic relationship?22:04 What tricks does a narcissist use to keep you on their hook if they see you as part of their "narcissistic supply”?24:05 ADHD Item27:06 Washing machine of woes33:09 Do narcissists know they’re narcissists?34:24 At what point would a narcissist begin to become self-aware that they might indeed have a problem?36:39 I need to voice some worries of my own! I’m on camera, I think I share some of the traits we've been talking about. I don't like being alone. I need praise to rid me of my RSD….do you think I’m a narcissist? How can I tell?!39:48 How can I be sure that my traits are just ADHD and not narcissism?43:09 Are there any other similarities someone with ADHD might have that are typical of a Narcissist, but might not be narcissism?45:07 If someone has an ADHD partner and they are trying to figure out if it's ADHD, or if there is something more sinister at play, what steps can they take to help try to figure it out?47:51 Is there a known cause for narcissism and if not, what do you think might be a factor that perpetuates it?49:18 How to spot a narcissist53:21 Can you ever change a narcissist and is it worth trying?54:05 Can narcissists be successful professionally?57:33 Successful narcissists aside, with the lower rungs of narcissism and perhaps the majority of the narcissistic population that aren't particularly high-functioning CEOs, what can that look like? Or to put it another way, what does the "everyday narcissist" look like?59:40 Is social media causing narcissism, or is it just the perfect tool for someone who already is a narcissist?Follow Dr Mark on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/drmarkrackley/Listen to Dr Mark's podcast 👉 https://open.spotify.com/show/2pQcITHSlR5qNUagV0jEgXThis episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

Shappi Khorsandi explores late ADHD diagnosis and shares many lessons she’s learnt. This episode is painfully relatable, but also full of hope, humour and insight.Shappi is a comedian, author, speaker and advocate for human rights.00:00 Trailer 02:48 When was your earliest memory of feeling different?10:30 You were diagnosed at 47? Why did it take so long for you to receive a diagnosis?14:28 What clicked into place when you heard the words "You have ADHD"?26:44 You have a great analogy about Tarzan and ADHD, can you explain this for our audience?33:05 Being diagnosed with ADHD and being a comedian - the creative comedy mind of which is constantly flipping from thought to thought (and I'm sure the two go hand in hand) - but how did this fluid nature of the way the brain works serve in holding down jobs & relationships?47:52 Moving around a lot when you were younger, changing country, feeling "foreign", facing racism, having ADHD, being shy, that's a lot to deal with for someone who is likely to be emotionally sensitive? What do you think the most testing part of your life has been as far as RSD is concerned?53:21 What did/do your parents think about ADHD and everything that it entails?57:30 The ‘ADHD item’ segment 01:03:26 Washing machine of woes 01:09:01 A very personal question and one you don't have to answer of course, but what is the process of a relationship coming to an end and then the subsequent divorce like for the chaotic mind of someone with ADHD?01:14:33 Do you think that everything you've been through - including your late diagnosis - has helped you build your career?01:17:41 Where would you be in life without your sense of humour and what purpose does your sense of humour serve in softening the blow of everything we've spoken about already!01:19:35 A wedding day story 01:23:14 Being very much an outsider through Neurodivergent means and, back when you came to the UK, feeling like an outsider through race too, do you have an explanation in a nutshell that might best describe how ostracised a person would feel, and did feel, in that scenario?01:27:04 Most impulsive thing 01:31:37 Closing questions & signing the ‘thinks outside the box’ canvas Buy Shappi's book 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Scatter-Brain-finally-rollercoaster-became/dp/1785044206/Visit Shappi's website for tour tickets 👉 https://shappi.co.ukThis episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

Alex chats with Neurodiversity Consultant, Matt Gupwell, to discuss Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)