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The Body Episode: Pelvic Floors, Sexual Health, and the Knowledge You Were Never Given (with Heather Ford)
If you have ever wondered:
💭 “Why does no one talk honestly about what happens to your body after having a baby?”
💭 “How do I stop feeling like sex is the last thing on my list?”
💭 “What does a healthy sex life even look like when everything in my body has changed?”
- this episode is for you.
In this honest, hilarious and genuinely eye-opening conversation, Tess and Layne welcome Heather Ford, sexologist, women's health clinician and founder of Core Restore Co., for a conversation about the body knowledge most of us were never given, and what changes when you finally have it.
Heather opens up about her own turning point: a trampoline park, a toddler, three months postpartum, and the moment that turned shame into purpose. She went back to university, completed a Master's in Women's Medicine and a Master's in Sexology, and built a practice dedicated to making complex, stigmatised medical topics genuinely approachable.
Together they move through female anatomy in a way that is equal parts educational and liberating. They cover the pelvic floor as a stress response muscle, the real structure and size of the clitoris, how breathing affects arousal, why lube is non-negotiable, and what happens to sexual health through perimenopause and menopause. Layne shares ten years of navigating menopause with honesty and grace. Tess reflects on rebuilding desire after injury.
You will learn about:
- The anatomy most of us were never taught, and why that gap costs us in confidence and connection
- How the pelvic floor connects to your jaw, your breathing, your mental health and your orgasm
- What the research actually says about sexual health, longevity, and why one orgasm a week matters
- How to have the conversations about intimacy that most couples avoid
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The A Wake Up Call podcast is created for general informational, educational, and inspirational purposes only. The stories, tools, and insights shared are designed to support your wellbeing journey - not to replace professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice. In fact, we believe therapy is non-negotiable in life.
If you're experiencing a medical or mental health condition, please seek guidance from a qualified healthcare professional. Never ignore or delay seeking professional advice because of something you've heard on this podcast.
Your wellbeing matters. Take care of yourself, stay curious, and remember the real wake-up call is listening to what your body and mind are trying to tell you.
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The Performance Brain - Psychological Flexibility, Trust and the Neuroscience of Peak Performance
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The Therapy Session - Self-Care, Separation, and Healing Your Inner Child
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Trust, Surrender and the Power of Owning Your Story – with Lael Stone
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