In this episode, Jet and Ren return after a long hiatus and are joined by your favorite girlfriend, author, artist, and porn performer: Carta Monir! Discussion includes the subjects of gracefully navigating complex relational webs, figuring out how to advocate for our desires in contexts where people don't know how to communicate, as well as learning self-acceptance and embracing sexuality as a person with emerging disabilities. <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1x3HK5NOmTqGMuwkCXyUsxOrx_hfqBijAwBNttbK11KI/edit?usp=sharing" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Episode Transcript</a> References/Resources <a href="https://allmylinks.com/xxxcartaxxx" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Carta's Links</a> <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samuel_R._Delany" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Samuel Delany</a> Cover Photo Credit: <a href="https://wondrashoots.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Wondra</a>

Carta Monir

In this episode of A Secret Third Thing, Jet and Ren record themselves while presenting live to an audience of people from their locale (the Midwest) and talk about the importance of Pod Mapping when carving out intentional non-traditional relationships. They also respond in real time to questions from their curious audience. Content Note: This was recorded outside near a busy road. We did the best we could to minimize noise interference but the audio is harsher than our other content. <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/17NP1UGQWvcLOZgzchSfGUvN598sj-lrQmp41_ajtWb8/edit?usp=sharing" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Transcript</a> Resources<a href="https://batjc.wordpress.com/resources/pods-and-pod-mapping-worksheet/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Pod Mapping (BATJ)</a> <a href="https://www.meaction.net/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Pacing-Guide-Clincians.FINAL2_.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Pacing Protocol</a>

Pod Mapping for Radical Relating

In this episode Jet and Ren discuss the theme of rejection and the ways that it has shown up in their lives as a window in to how it plays a bigger role in disconnection within the queer community. <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1m9bdw9J-l-jlynVtMjTFic3eW7rej1iepOBtJ0Q_Uk4/edit?usp=sharing" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Episode Transcript</a> References/Resources: <a href="https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2011/05/05/access-intimacy-the-missing-link/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Access Intimacy</a> - Mia Mingus <a href="https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17Hc3UFkDX3qA4IGYmjxEQhMW9BUOdPxt" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">RA Smorgasbord</a> - Maxx Hill <a href="http://fuckingtranswomen.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">"Fucking Trans Women"</a> - Mira Bellwether

Rejection

Time To Fuck Back

In this episode, Jet and Ren discuss the ways the pandemic has impacted their relationship with each other and with their desires more generally. <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/18WqrZErufKhBkbKvGGxSDzIxrQ0UvLKlBAZbQdfiLRg/edit?usp=sharing" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Episode Transcript</a> References/Resources: <a href="https://www.docdroid.net/4cLPUEq/panzine-pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Panzine</a> <a href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/12Sgq6KSp4dzqbxSQC5M8FlHXXgA5heh2/view" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Queer Desire Party Zine</a>

The Pandemic Fucked Us

Meet Jet & Ren

In this episode, Jet and Ren introduce themselves and the podcast by sharing about their secret third things and their journeys to get to where they are in understanding their orientations towards intimate relationships. <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1x4oxKzyJwJhLXLv8b5tkPk8YHvuhGHvWP1GqLIW3Nt0/edit?usp=sharing" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Episode transcription</a> References/Resources:Earthseed - Octavia Butler<a href="https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">RA Manifesto</a> - Andie Nordgren<a href="https://batjc.wordpress.com/resources/pods-and-pod-mapping-worksheet/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Pod Mapping</a> - Mia Mingus<a href="https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17Hc3UFkDX3qA4IGYmjxEQhMW9BUOdPxt" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">RA Smorgasbord</a> - Maxx Hill<a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/190-survive-nre" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">NRE </a>- Multiamory Podcast<a href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/158QOrwOUri07DxwkwbQQddFwDRJbq0iK/view" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Aromantic Manifesto</a> - yingchen &amp; yingtong<a href="https://www.sinsinvalid.org/blog/10-principles-of-disability-justice" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Disability Justice</a> - Sins Invalid

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