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Reflective Awareness: Embracing Our Shadow Through What We Judge in Others - Dr John Demartini
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This conversation starts with a truly eye-opening insight: our judgments of others often reveal traits in ourselves that we haven’t fully recognised and owned. Internationally renowned behaviour expert Dr John Demartini identified 4,628 different human behavioural traits, and recognised that we all possess both all of them - positive and negative. This is about what he calls reflective awareness – that we are simply being shown by others what we aren’t loving in ourselves, which keeps us from wholeness.
We also talk about
- What emotional intelligence and authenticity really are.
- Why aligning our actions with our core values is key.
- Recognising the interconnectedness of all life.
- How acknowledging and embracing both sides of existence—like peace and conflict—helps us return to wholeness.
- Recognising hat success is deeply personal, defined by our own values, and that living in alignment with those values is what brings true fulfillment.
- How resisting what is creates all psychological suffering, and what to do instead
'The desire to seek that which is unobtainable, and the desire to avoid that which is unavoidable, is the source of human suffering'. - The Buddha
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