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How To Develop Your Acceptance Muscle: Jenna Ashford - elite athlete, hardcore meditator and psychologist
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There are few skills as important to develop as acceptance. Psychological flexibility – which is described as our ability to make contact with the present moment fully and without defence, is all about acceptance. When we feel uncomfortable – our thoughts typically try and drag us away from the source of apparent discomfort. But discomfort is a part of life, particularly if we want to live life to the full, and so learning to lean in and embrace it is where the gold lies. Jenna Ashford is an elite athlete turned coach and hardcore meditator – she shares one way to develop our powers of acceptance, using the example of an irritatingly wrinkly sock...
My book Champion Thinking: How To Find Success Without Losing Yourself draws on some of my favourite interviews over the last six years. In it, I seek to challenge our ideas about 'success', and where peace, joy and fulfilment are truly to be found.
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'This book will challenge your thinking on what success truly is and will give you tools to "succeed" in life in the truest sense of the world. This is definitely not just another book about sport and those who happen to be good at it' -- GOLDIE SAYERS
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