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115 Miles
It's Them, Not You
Ep. 100
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Two perfect moments come together in this latest episode of 115 miles.
Not only does it mark our 100th episode (which I think we actually forgot to mention), but also it is the launch week for Josh's book, It's Them, Not You. For anyone that has followed us since the early days of this podcast, you'll know how momentous this week is and we're delighted to have explored on this this special episode.
We hope you enjoy the listen!
If you haven't got your copy of the book yet, grab it here: https://www.joshconnolly.co.uk/its-them-not-you
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