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Affirmation, Healing, and Trust w/ Lee Harrington

Season 1, Ep. 1

Todd, Clay, and Ronen had a chance to talk kink & healing with Author, Educator, and Kinkster Lee Harrington. We wade into the deep end with with Lee about Spiritual, Mental, and Emotional Exploration and Healing through Kink. From Butt Bondage to Age Play, Mental Health Challenges to Gender Affirmation, cleaning up messes for the ones we love without saying a word or playfully humiliating them, are all ways we manage to make this world easier to navigate.


the Subspace Exploration Patreon: https://patreon.com/SubspaceExploration

Episode Page: www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/lee-harrington-affirmation-healing

Classes Mentioned:

Crotch Ropes & Butt Bondage (2/5/24 Online): https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2024-02-05-online-crotch-rope-and-butt-bondage

Patreon Salon (2/11/24 Online): https://www.patreon.com/passionandsoul/

From Gender Dysphoria to Gender Euphoria (3/23/24 Online): https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/a99917cc9 9

Delving Into Power 3-Day Power Exchange Intensive (5/10/24-5/12/24 Online): https://forbiddentickets.com/events/passionandsoul-presents/66affc047c

Dark Roleplaying (4/12/24-4/14/24 at Grand Fetish Affair in Cincinnati, O hio): https://www.grandfetishaffair.com/

ALL Upcoming Events: https://www.passionandsoul.com/events


Non-Lee Resources Mentioned:

THRIVE BDSM and Mental Health Conference: https://thrivevirtualcon.com

Wicked Grounds: https://wickedgrounds.com

Karada House: https://karada-house.de

As You Like It: https://asyoulikeitshop.com/


Books Mentioned:

The Toybag Guide to Age Play by Lee Harrington: https://a.co/d/3QU01bL

Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond by Lee Harrington: https://a.co/d/emK3HIW

Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé (features butt bondage and strap-on): https://a.co/d/bLqv174

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