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  • 34. The Making of a Narcissist: The Wolf of Wall Street

    26:19||Ep. 34
    What Drives a Man to Trade His Soul for Power?In this compelling conversation, Laura Giles takes a deep dive into the rise and unraveling of Jordan Belfort, the infamous anti-hero of The Wolf of Wall Street. What turns a clean-cut dreamer into a chaotic king of excess? Giles unpacks the hidden forces—early childhood experiences, the intoxicating pull of money, and the invisible grip of social circles—that shaped his descent. Along the way, she invites listeners to reflect on their own values, the power of influence, and why stories like Belfort’s captivate us so deeply. This isn't just a character study—it's a mirror.👉 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and comment below with your thoughts on The Wolf of Wall StreetChapters00:00 Introduction to Jordan Belfort's Character02:21 The Transformation of Jordan Belfort06:31 The Impact of Childhood on Jordan's Behavior09:59 The Role of Money and Power in Identity14:02 The Dynamics of Relationships and Narcissism17:09 Lessons from the Wolf of Wall Street24:27 The Audience's Complicity in the NarrativeIn Virginia, Colorado, or Indiana and want to join my DBT group? Reach out at https://lauragiles.net================================================Music, photos, and video by Pixabay.================================================SUBSCRIBE HERE: https://youtube.com/@lauragiles804 I want to hear from you! Leave me an audio comment. I listen to them all.https://galas.fm/homeProducts I LOVE:https://heartmath.com/lauragileshttps://resona.health/laura-gilesHost Laura Giles is a licensed trauma therapist who shares stories to help people learn about mental health so that they can understand themselves and others, advocate for themselves, and connect with the RIGHT help the first time. Tip Jar - Support My Channel Herehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/itsnotyouitsmeLaura Giles may talk about products on this podcast. If you buy from a link, she may earn a commission that does not impact the price that you pay. The fee helps to pay for podcast expenses. Thank you.

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  • 31. The Psychology of Power: Inside the Minds of Vito and Michael Corleone

    22:37||Ep. 31
    Step into the world of The Godfather and uncover the psychological depths of Vito and Michael Corleone. This conversation invites you to explore how power, trauma, and unshakable family loyalty shape their identities and drive their choices. What lies beneath their calm, commanding surfaces? How do their pasts influence the way they lead, love, and retaliate? Through the lens of personality disorders, generational wounds, and the haunting weight of violence, we examine the humanity behind their actions—and the surprising roles that compassion and forgiveness might play in understanding them, people like them, and yourself. Chapters00:00 Exploring the Godfather's Legacy02:52 Vito Corleone: The Godfather's Rise05:58 Michael Corleone: Transformation and Trauma08:46 Narcissism and Power Dynamics11:30 Understanding Personality Disorders14:45 The Impact of Trauma on Behavior17:26 Compassion and Forgiveness in Violence20:16 Lessons from the Corleones: Power and Humanity👉 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and comment below with your thoughts on The Godfather.In Virginia, Colorado, or Indiana and want to join my DBT group? Reach out at https://lauragiles.net================================================Music, photos, and video by Pixabay.================================================SUBSCRIBE HERE: https://youtube.com/@lauragiles804 I want to hear from you! Leave me an audio comment. I listen to them all.https://galas.fm/homeProducts I LOVE:https://heartmath.com/lauragileshttps://resona.health/laura-gilesHost Laura Giles is a licensed trauma therapist who shares stories to help people learn about mental health so that they can understand themselves and others, advocate for themselves, and connect with the RIGHT help the first time. Tip Jar - Support My Channel Herehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/itsnotyouitsmeLaura Giles may talk about products on this podcast. If you buy from a link, she may earn a commission that does not impact the price that you pay. The fee helps to pay for podcast expenses. Thank you.
  • 30. Psychological Profiles of Ashley, Scarlett, and Rhett: The Minds Behind "Gone with the Wind

    31:20||Ep. 30
    What drives Ashley Wilkes, Scarlett O'Hara, and Rhett Butler in Gone with the Wind? In this video, we break down the psychological makeup of each iconic character — exploring Ashley's idealism and inner conflict, Scarlett's ambition and survival instinct, and Rhett's complex dance between cynicism and vulnerability. Discover how their personalities shape their choices, relationships, and ultimate fates in Margaret Mitchell's classic story.Then use them to explore yourself!Chapters00:00 Introduction to Psychological Profiles in 'Gone With The Wind'00:59 Exploring Ashley Wilkes: The Indecisive Dreamer04:34 Scarlett O'Hara: The Complex Protagonist11:27 Rhett Butler: The Anti-Hero with a Conscience20:20 Trauma Bonds: The Connection Between Scarlett and Rhett32:00 Conclusion: Understanding Complex PTSD in Characters================================================SUBSCRIBE HERE: https://www.youtube.com/@lauragiles804I want to hear from you! Leave me an audio comment. I listen to them all.https://galas.fm/homeHost Laura Giles helps people become amazing humans by healing, knowing, loving, being, and sharing themselves. Laura draws on her experience as a trauma therapist, shadow work coach, and spiritual tour facilitator to make the magic happen easily and almost effortlessly.Tip Jar - Support My Channel Herehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/itsnotyouitsmeGet InvolvedJoin the FREE community - a sanctuary where earthlings can rediscover who they were before the fear set in. Let's rewild together!https://myfantasia.netIt's Not You, It's Me on YouTubehttps://youtube.com/@UCfhS6qrqQE8EDHAUbwXl3rw Spiritual Travel wIth Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.meCoaching with Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.orgSubscribe to the PodcastApple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-to-thriving/id1633809677?mt=2&ls=1Amazon Musichttps://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a4719e49-9f2e-460c-a6dd-18494959ed6e/surviving-to-thrivingAudiblehttps://www.audible.com/pd/Let-It-Go-Now-Podcast/B0B5MBDKBV?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp&shareTest=TestShareIHeartRadiohttps://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-let-it-go-now-99030225/Podcast Addicthttps://podcastaddict.com/podcast/4111276Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/1L4z22rKMeiehUz3kJgTcQHost Bio: Laura Giles helps motivated earthlings develop meaningful, platonic connections . Through coaching, spiritual tours, and her online community, earthlings experience what natural, healthy connection feels like so they can once again embody it.Laura Giles may talk about products on this podcast. If you buy from a link, she may earn a commission that does not impact the price that you pay. The fee helps to pay for podcast expenses. Thank you. ================================================Music, photos, and video by Pixabay.
  • 29. Life After Manslaughter

    36:48||Season 3, Ep. 29
    Have you ever thoughts about life after manslaughter? How does a person get to that point? How do they live with themselves afterwards? How do the family and community deal with it?Today we explore what that's like from the perspective of someone who has lived it. Be prepared to be deeply touched. It's an amazing story.Guest Bio: Wayne BoatwrightIntroducing Wayne Boatwright: An Archetypal Hero's Journey in the Modern World - Boatwright is a renaissance mind in parenting, culture, law, and advocacy as well as a published author: Podcast Profiles: Spotlights on the Nation’s Leading Podcast Professionals, Creators, and Hosts. His story goes from triumph, tribulation, and transformation.Learn more about Wayne Boatwright here:https://wayneboatwright.substack.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/wayneboatwright/https://wayneboatwright.medium.comhttps://sanquentinnews.com/?s=wayne+boatwrighthttps://www.instagram.com/wabfree/================================================SUBSCRIBE HERE: https://www.youtube.com/@lauragiles804Host Laura Giles helps people become amazing humans. Laura draws on her experience as a trauma therapist, shadow work coach, and spiritual tour facilitator to make the magic happen easily and almost effortlessly.Tip Jar - Support My Channel Herehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/itsnotyouitsmeIt's Not You, It's Me on YouTubehttps://youtube.com/@UCfhS6qrqQE8EDHAUbwXl3rwSpiritual Travel wIth Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.meCoaching with Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.orgSubscribe to the PodcastApple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-to-thriving/id1633809677?mt=2&ls=1Amazon Musichttps://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a4719e49-9f2e-460c-a6dd-18494959ed6e/surviving-to-thrivingAudiblehttps://www.audible.com/pd/Let-It-Go-Now-Podcast/B0B5MBDKBV?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp&shareTest=TestShareIHeartRadiohttps://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-let-it-go-now-99030225/Podcast Addicthttps://podcastaddict.com/podcast/4111276Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/1L4z22rKMeiehUz3kJgTcQHost Bio: Laura Giles helps motivated earthlings develop meaningful, platonic connections . Through coaching, spiritual tours, and her online community, earthlings experience what natural, healthy connection feels like so they can once again embody it.Laura Giles may talk about products on this podcast. If you buy from a link, she may earn a commission that does not impact the price that you pay. The fee helps to pay for podcast expenses. Thank you.================================================Music, photos, and video by Pixabay.
  • 28. Life Begins At Retirement

    34:48||Season 3, Ep. 28
    Did you know that the average person dies not long after retiring? What? Yes! But what would it look like if your life begins at retirement? Adaptability, open mindedness, and curiosity are the keys to a vibrant retirement life, as my guest today, Alistair Henry will attest.Alistair shares his wild post-retirement adventures. I think you will find yourself inspired and perhaps changing the way you look at retirement.Highlights 0:00Guest Bio: Alistair Henry is an 80 year old Audio Book Narrator, Author, International Organizational Development Advisor, Global backpacker, and double lung transplant recipient.Contact Alistair Henryhttps://alastairhenry.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/alastair-henry-11b9202b/https://www.facebook.com/alastair.henry.35========================================================I want to hear from you! Leave me an audio comment. I listen to them all.https://galas.fm/homeHost Laura Giles helps people become amazing humans by healing, knowing, loving, being, and sharing themselves. Laura draws on her experience as a trauma therapist, shadow work coach, and spiritual tour facilitator to make the magic happen easily and almost effortlessly.Tip Jar - Support My Channel Herehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/itsnotyouitsmeGet InvolvedJoin the FREE It's Not You, It's Me Tribe - a sanctuary where earthlings can rediscover who they were before the fear set in. Let's rewild together!https://player.letitgonow.orgIt's Not You, It's Me on YouTubehttps://youtube.com/@UCfhS6qrqQE8EDHAUbwXl3rwSpiritual Travel wIth Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.meCoaching with Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.orgSubscribe to the PodcastApple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-to-thriving/id1633809677?mt=2&ls=1Amazon Musichttps://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a4719e49-9f2e-460c-a6dd-18494959ed6e/surviving-to-thrivingAudiblehttps://www.audible.com/pd/Let-It-Go-Now-Podcast/B0B5MBDKBV?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp&shareTest=TestShareIHeartRadiohttps://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-let-it-go-now-99030225/Podcast Addicthttps://podcastaddict.com/podcast/4111276Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/1L4z22rKMeiehUz3kJgTcQLaura Giles may talk about products on this podcast. If you buy from a link, she may earn a commission that does not impact the price that you pay. The fee helps to pay for podcast expenses. Thank you.================================================Music, photos, and video by Pixabay.
  • 27. Healing With Music with Emma G

    22:48||Season 3, Ep. 27
    Heading through music is available to everyone. We all have a song in our hearts, if we allow it to blossom. Music is a part of us. In today's podcast, Emma G shares how music saved her life and continues to be the way that she expresses herself.Guest Bio: Emma GAuthor, two-time TEDx Speaker, Singer/songwriter, and Empowerment Coach, Emma G uses the magic of music to empower, uplift, and motivate audiences worldwide.Born with a rare neurological condition called hydrocephalus, Emma G has recovered from multiple traumas, including ten brain surgeries, by writing and singing her truth, sharing her experiences, and turning her lessons into blessings.As part of her 2023 project to release a song each month tied to a social justice or a mental health cause, Emma G partnered with Hard Rock Café to spread empowering messages to audiences including anti-bullying for August, drug and alcohol addiction for September, depression in October, and homeless youth in November. Her April song’s music video, “Barbed Wire,” focuses on abuse and sexual assault awareness and earned her a Silver Telly award in 2023.In 2024, Emma G is continuing her music with a message mission with a US summer Youth Empowerment Tour in partnership with Hard Rock Café. The tour will encompass both YES youth workshops and performances opportunities for teenagers to join Emma G on Hard Rock Café stages covering over 15 states, and 21+ cities across the country.“My goal is to save the world one song at a time – both through the music I compose, and the songs I help teenagers write. Through my music, I aim to motivate, spread love, and embrace authenticity: helping individuals rediscover their true selves.”Learn more about Emma G. here:https://emmagmusic.comhttps://emmagmusic.com/listen-to-the-podcast/https://twitter.com/emmagmusichttps://instagram.com/emmagmusichttps://facebook.com/EmmaGspeakshttps://youtube.com/emmagmusichttps://www.linkedin.com/in/emmagmusic/https://www.tiktok.com/@emmagspeaks==============================================================Host Laura Giles helps people become amazing humans. Laura draws on her experience as a trauma therapist, shadow work coach, and spiritual tour facilitator to make the magic happen easily and almost effortlessly.Tip Jar - Support My Channel Herehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/itsnotyouitsmeIt's Not You, It's Me on YouTubehttps://youtube.com/@UCfhS6qrqQE8EDHAUbwXl3rwSpiritual Travel wIth Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.meCoaching with Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.org================================================Music, photos, and video by Pixabay.
  • 26. It's All About Relationships with Andre Paradis

    41:18||Season 3, Ep. 26
    Everyone has something to teach. Andre Paradis' calling is to help people realize that it's all about relationships. Tune in and see his perspective. It may not be what you think!About Andre ParadisI have come a long way from my tough childhood days and former life as a professional dancer; I am now an inspirational relationship coach. Teaching has been one of my passions throughout my life, from teaching in Japan to Bangkok and all the way back. In 2006, I began studying the dynamics between men and women out of sheer curiosity, ultimately discovering something extraordinary.This discovery spurred me to spend time researching and became too powerful a message to keep to myself. Project Equinox was created with the mission to share all the knowledge I had gained in the world.Nowadays, I would be considered in the ‘third phase’ of my life, endeavoring to help change people's lives around the globe by equipping them with the tools to have excellent communication skills and healthy relationships; I am determined to make a long-term positive impact.Contact Andre Paradisemail: andrecoaching1@gmail.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@andre_paradishttps://www.linkedin.com/in/andre-paradis-16042249/https://www.facebook.com/ProjectEquinox/==============================================================I want to hear from you! Leave me an audio comment. I listen to them all.https://galas.fm/homeHost Laura Giles helps people become amazing humans by healing, knowing, loving, being, and sharing themselves. Laura draws on her experience as a trauma therapist, shadow work coach, and spiritual tour facilitator to make the magic happen easily and almost effortlessly.Tip Jar - Support My Channel Herehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/itsnotyouitsmeGet InvolvedJoin the FREE It's Not You, It's Me Tribe - a sanctuary where earthlings can rediscover who they were before the fear set in. Let's rewild together!https://player.letitgonow.orgIt's Not You, It's Me on YouTubehttps://youtube.com/@UCfhS6qrqQE8EDHAUbwXl3rwSpiritual Travel wIth Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.meCoaching with Laura Gileshttps://lauragiles.orgSubscribe to the PodcastApple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-to-thriving/id1633809677?mt=2&ls=1Amazon Musichttps://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a4719e49-9f2e-460c-a6dd-18494959ed6e/surviving-to-thrivingAudiblehttps://www.audible.com/pd/Let-It-Go-Now-Podcast/B0B5MBDKBV?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp&shareTest=TestShareIHeartRadiohttps://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-let-it-go-now-99030225/Podcast Addicthttps://podcastaddict.com/podcast/4111276Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/1L4z22rKMeiehUz3kJgTcQLaura Giles may talk about products on this podcast. If you buy from a link, she may earn a commission that does not impact the price that you pay. The fee helps to pay for podcast expenses. Thank you.================================================Music, photos, and video by Pixabay.