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How to Make Impossible Conversations Possible | Spotlight Convo

In an era of polarization, we’ve lost the art of gathering, listening, and connecting across divides. How can we rediscover the power of discourse to build mutual understanding?


Priya Parker, Anand Giridharadas, and Jonah Berger reveal simple but transformative tools to help us relearn how to truly listen, relate, and influence. Through stories and guidance, we uncover how to create spaces for bearing witness to shared humanity, open minds and hearts through persuasive conversation, and choose words that connect rather than divide. Join us as we uncover a path back to empathy, dignity, and healing in our fractured world.


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