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Tab Wolod | Grabbing Ourselves by the Bootstraps and Getting Us Out of the Mud

We have a special guest for today's episode during the National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month, Tabitha Wolod. Tab is the CEO of Ideas Equal Income, a creative agency built to help individuals, just as its name indicates, transform their ideas into income. She is also a Queer person of color, currently dealing with some mental health issues, and a huge advocate for mental health awareness.


Throughout our conversation, we navigate Tab's childhood traumas, her relationship with her parents, the different extreme and traumatic situations she was exposed to since she was a child, and how they developed all over her adolescence and early adulthood. 


We talk about her coping mechanisms to deal with reality, her early introduction to nightlife, substance abuse, and promiscuous relationships with men and women. 


In addition, we delve into the importance of seeking proper medical assistance, the dangers of misdiagnoses, and how her life changed after she got adequately diagnosed and medicated. 


Some Questions I Ask:

  • Could you talk about how old you were when mental disorders started to manifest and how that experience was? (8:34)
  • Talk to us through what it looked and felt like; what were some signs and symptoms that things weren't in sync in your life? (15:10)
  • What were you trying to do to cope during this period of chaos during your early 20s? (24:53)


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Tab's upbringing and the challenges she faced having a mother with multiple mental health issues (4:25)
  • The lack of food restrictions at Tab's house and her struggles with poor nutrition (11:33)
  • Tab's first experiences as being misdiagnosed with depression (18:59)
  • Tab takes us through her traumatic experiences and poor choices in her early adulthood (20:14)
  • How Tab's life changed after she got a proper diagnosis to deal with her mental health issues (32:51)


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