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Supporting A Partner With ADHD
Season 4, Ep. 17
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If you’ve been following us here for a while, you know that we both openly talk about our mental health challenges. For Kim, it's anxiety and depression. For Penn, it's ADHD. We’ve written countless songs, skits, and blogs about these struggles. Most recently, Penn wrote a blog about how he processes his ADHD and turns it into his superpower especially through our time on The Amazing Race. Supporting each other's mental health has taken a lot of time and practice. Like sometimes your husband leaves his carry-on suitcase (the only piece of luggage he packed) in the airport and doesn't realize it until we've reached our final destination... not exactly the superpower version of ADHD.
This week we talk about what it looks like in our relationship for us to support each other’s mental health. We are going to make this a multi-part series, and today we cover Penn’s ADHD: what that looks like for him, ways he has learned to manage his brain, and how Kim has learned to support him.
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About the Holderness Family : Penn, Kim, Lola, and Penn Charles Holderness create original music, parodies, and Vlogs for YouTube and Facebook to poke fun of themselves and celebrate the absurdity in circumstances most families face in their day to day life. They published "Christmas Jammies" in December 2013 and life hasn't been the same. Since then, their popular parodies, "All About That Baste", "Baby Got Class," and original music "Snow Day" have received national news coverage. Penn, the Dad, took a chance and left his job as a news anchor to join his wife Kim, the Mom, at their video production and digital marketing company, Greenroom Communications, LLC. Lola and Penn Charles are always happy, respectful and eat all of their vegetables (that last sentence is a lie).
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