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1104 || defusing counterwill

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counterwill is an important developmental function, but it can be a hindrance to healthy relationship develeopment. it's important to recognize it is an instinct, albeit a frustrating one. so remember when dealing with counterwill, it's important not to ignore the rebellion but also important not to force control. instead, we should pay attention + focus on our attachment in the relationship, instead.


“We may not be responsible for the way the world creates our mind, but we can learn to take responsibility for the mind with which we create our world.” - Gabor Maté


If you didn't know, Gabor Maté is truly a great educator and I aspire to communicate ideas as meaningfully and effectively as he can. Until then, I'll just encourage everyone to check out the other amazing work he does:


GABOR MATÉ'S WEBSITE: https://drgabormate.com/

GABOR MATÉ'S BOOK: https://drgabormate.com/book/scattered-minds/


OTHER RESOURCES: https://thenaturalparentmagazine.com/understanding-counterwill/2/

AND: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Counterwill


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