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Ep 156. Fierce self-compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff

Ep. 156

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The incredible Kristin Neff PhD, author of the new book Fierce self-compassion: The feminist guide for women to understand, appreciate and speak up for themselves, joins me on this week's episode. If you don't know who Kristin is, she is quite a big deal in the self-compassion world. A leading voice in the field, I quoted her several times in my book The Anxiety Solution.


We discuss:
  • Why the words fierce and kind don't often come together and why they should
  • Her own story around self-compassion
  • Why she wrote this book specifically for women
  • Why is it so hard for us to be kind to ourself
  • Tapping into anger as a force for good



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